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I dread weekends since the knock. So Extended weekends aren't something I look forward to anymore.
An external event has almost tipped me over the edge this morning. I feel sick and sweaty. BUT we planned to do something as a family and I'm going to continue. I'm doing lots of breathing exercises and trying really hard to remind myself that right now, we are all safe..I am safe.
So if you're struggling, hop in the bus and share your worries/feelings etc
Hugs to all
An external event has almost tipped me over the edge this morning. I feel sick and sweaty. BUT we planned to do something as a family and I'm going to continue. I'm doing lots of breathing exercises and trying really hard to remind myself that right now, we are all safe..I am safe.
So if you're struggling, hop in the bus and share your worries/feelings etc
Hugs to all
Morning - I hear you and feel your pain.
I keep having nightmares about media.
I don't think I can do it! Everyone will think I support a P and it isn't the case but our lives mine and my children's will be over either way.
I keep having nightmares about media.
I don't think I can do it! Everyone will think I support a P and it isn't the case but our lives mine and my children's will be over either way.
You can do it. Not saying any of this is easy. But you're here, posting, reaching out. You have to keep hanging in there.
You might very well be lucky and escape media attention. Can you think of a future with that scenario? Might be too much to hold onto that idea as a hope just now, but it's at the very least a possible alternative right now, isn't it? If both options are possible, can you make a bit more mental space for the better option? I think we're all drawn this the worst case scenario - it helps us to mentally prepare, and there might be things to physically prepare too, but beyond that there's not much you can do to influence the outcome. It might help, if you can, to try and also include some neutral or better case scenarios in your thinking.
Easier said than done, but it might give you some relief. When I can manage it (and it's not something I can always do, sometimes I'm too overwhelmed) I usually feel a bit less heavy and bleak
Thinking of you x x x
You might very well be lucky and escape media attention. Can you think of a future with that scenario? Might be too much to hold onto that idea as a hope just now, but it's at the very least a possible alternative right now, isn't it? If both options are possible, can you make a bit more mental space for the better option? I think we're all drawn this the worst case scenario - it helps us to mentally prepare, and there might be things to physically prepare too, but beyond that there's not much you can do to influence the outcome. It might help, if you can, to try and also include some neutral or better case scenarios in your thinking.
Easier said than done, but it might give you some relief. When I can manage it (and it's not something I can always do, sometimes I'm too overwhelmed) I usually feel a bit less heavy and bleak
Thinking of you x x x
I just wanted to say that I went through a period where I hated weekends and just wanted to be busy at work and running errands. It passed for me and I now enjoy weekends again. Just wanted you to know it probably we ont last forever.
All days are the same to me but I prefer weekends and bank holidays because I figure I'm less likely to get an email from the Police saying a neighbour has been asking for information about my ex, or a knock at the door at 7am, or an email saying sentencing has been adjourned for the 6th time, etc. But I still worry. X
Weekends are particularly bad because that's when we had the knock last July. My sons 16 and at age he doesn't really want to do stuff with us but also hates being left alone. He's actually got little better with knocks at the door. Had parcel delivered today and probably first time he didn't jump.
Sometimes I wonder if he's on the spectrum though. We planned to go out as a family but he wasn't keen where we were going. This resulted in a meltdown and then he seems to find it hard to read emotions saying we are shouting or arguing when we are not. But then I think add teenage hormones in and the stress of all of this there is no wonder his mental health is suffering.
I tried to get an update on devices being checked as we were told they were due to be started 28th March but not had update. He wants me to take him to a concert in London which in total will cost near on £1000. Part of me is yeah book it and then I'm worrying but what if called for 2nd interview. Like you say think the worst case scenario.
My son wants to travel visit places like Japan etc will he ever be able to do that. Again thinking worst case scenario even when currently we have no idea exactly what he's supposed to have viewed.
So we go through the nightmare whilst the world keeps turning.
Sometimes I wonder if he's on the spectrum though. We planned to go out as a family but he wasn't keen where we were going. This resulted in a meltdown and then he seems to find it hard to read emotions saying we are shouting or arguing when we are not. But then I think add teenage hormones in and the stress of all of this there is no wonder his mental health is suffering.
I tried to get an update on devices being checked as we were told they were due to be started 28th March but not had update. He wants me to take him to a concert in London which in total will cost near on £1000. Part of me is yeah book it and then I'm worrying but what if called for 2nd interview. Like you say think the worst case scenario.
My son wants to travel visit places like Japan etc will he ever be able to do that. Again thinking worst case scenario even when currently we have no idea exactly what he's supposed to have viewed.
So we go through the nightmare whilst the world keeps turning.
Justcoping - I can't even think about possible travel restrictions.. it's too much. It's all so sad, especially when it's such young lives potentially facing such significant restrictions.
Today has been crap. I probably made it worse if I'm honest, because I can't relax. I'm snappy and short tempered which isn't really conducive to having a 'nice family day' really. So now I feel guilty.
Maybe tomorrow will be better. Who knows? It's such a rollercoaster, isn't it? A rollercoaster from a bl00dy horror movie.
Prairie - I hope I reach that stage at some point. Thank you for offering some hope.
Robin - I hope you've had an ok day
I really struggle to remember the post/replies - shame you can't see the thread when you reply!
Hope everyone has made it through the day as best as you could. I'm going to try really hard to have a better day tomorrow. I do have some good or ok days - but it usually requires an almost super human effort and I haven't always got it in me. I don't think I had it in me today :-(
Today has been crap. I probably made it worse if I'm honest, because I can't relax. I'm snappy and short tempered which isn't really conducive to having a 'nice family day' really. So now I feel guilty.
Maybe tomorrow will be better. Who knows? It's such a rollercoaster, isn't it? A rollercoaster from a bl00dy horror movie.
Prairie - I hope I reach that stage at some point. Thank you for offering some hope.
Robin - I hope you've had an ok day
I really struggle to remember the post/replies - shame you can't see the thread when you reply!
Hope everyone has made it through the day as best as you could. I'm going to try really hard to have a better day tomorrow. I do have some good or ok days - but it usually requires an almost super human effort and I haven't always got it in me. I don't think I had it in me today :-(