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Phoenixmum

Member since
July 2019

27 posts

Posted Thu January 16, 2020 4:48pmReport post

Hi all, not posted on here for a while. Today is 7 years from our knock, son was offender & life changed forever. Just wanted to let others going through difficult times that life can & does go on. Some days like today it's as fresh as the day it happened but it's easier to get through now. I'm so very thankful to stop it now who became my saviours in all of this through some very difficult times. I know I can still contact them even now. We as a family do not condone what our son did but have stood by him & feel he deserved a chance to turn his life around. He did, I'm proud of how he has improved his life after. This will always be a part of our family history but I'm confident it will not ruin our lives as I did at the start. I'm so pleased there is more help for families now too, I wish I could speak up a bit more but I can't so this is my way of helping, stay strong xx

Confused.com

Member since
December 2019

48 posts

Posted Thu January 16, 2020 5:41pmReport post

Wow 7 years on, you don't really think of stop it now being around then. Thank you for taking the time to post this. It's still early days for me, nearly two years in and still waiting for my partner to be charged so we can finally move on. Like you I don't condone what's happened but I am willing to try and understand why it happened and help support them to change. In my partners case it's been a porn addiction. Very remorseful and getting all the help they need.



Its funny how people are quick to say your life is over if you support a sex offender, who says it has to be? I rang the helpline once and they referred to the sexual offence register to being similar to Autism spectrum.... it's so wide and so many people are different as the nature of offenses can vary to such a degree, which mean the risks vary.



I'm pleased to hear you and your son can finally move on with life and in a much happier place.

I don't know how you found it, but theres been a period In This journey for me where actually my friends and family have added additional unnecessary stress. Its like the gift that keeps on giving!



lovely to hear from someone who's made it through the other side!

Tutleymutley

Member since
November 2019

104 posts

Posted Mon January 20, 2020 1:15pmReport post

PHoenixmum - what a lovely 'monicker' and what a heartwarming post. Just what I need to hear today - so thankyou.

Mum15

Member since
February 2020

10 posts

Posted Wed February 19, 2020 10:42pmReport post

hi phoenixmum

glad I found your post it made me have some hope for the future

it's only been 6 months since my son went to Court he got SOR 5 years and we all know he was lucky he didn't go to prison

I am wishing that time will move quickly and we will be able to cope and get on with life but 5 years is such a long time away and I feel my life is on hold until then. He says he is keeping positive about life but I worry about him all the time.

all the best to you and your family x