My sons world falling apart
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Feel my son's life is falling apart with the stress of this and he won't talk to anyone.
He's in his first year of A levels which he has found difficult and I feel the investigation is a contributing factor. In his GCSE's he got top grades all 7,8 and 9s so a grade A student. Originally he wasn't doing A levels but switched so meant he started late. We were told he was doing fine but half way results show he might fail the first year. The impact this might have on his already fragile mental health I don't want to imagine.
Yesterday I messaged the OIC for an update and told them the impact on my son. They replied and asked if they could forward my email onto the people who check the devices. I presume he wants them aware of the impact this is having in the hope it will speed things up.
Yesterday with messages from college and fact my son had gone on a college trip to a wildlife park in relation to what he wants to do at university and he messaged saying the talks had finished and he was now walking around the wildlife park on his own for several hours because he's no friends. I ended up breaking down and crying at work. Then later he said some others from college were laughing at him because he was on his own. It just breaks my heart.
I feel so much pressure on myself and trying to keep everyone else going. I worry for my son and fact he won't talk. Through school he struggled and didn't want friends because he thought they would get him in trouble. I'm starting to think college isn't the right environment but what are the alternatives because his choosen career he needs to go to university.
I just hope the OIC forwarding my email detailing the impact on my son does help in speeding this process up. The whole system really needs addressing, particularly when its a child involved.
He's in his first year of A levels which he has found difficult and I feel the investigation is a contributing factor. In his GCSE's he got top grades all 7,8 and 9s so a grade A student. Originally he wasn't doing A levels but switched so meant he started late. We were told he was doing fine but half way results show he might fail the first year. The impact this might have on his already fragile mental health I don't want to imagine.
Yesterday I messaged the OIC for an update and told them the impact on my son. They replied and asked if they could forward my email onto the people who check the devices. I presume he wants them aware of the impact this is having in the hope it will speed things up.
Yesterday with messages from college and fact my son had gone on a college trip to a wildlife park in relation to what he wants to do at university and he messaged saying the talks had finished and he was now walking around the wildlife park on his own for several hours because he's no friends. I ended up breaking down and crying at work. Then later he said some others from college were laughing at him because he was on his own. It just breaks my heart.
I feel so much pressure on myself and trying to keep everyone else going. I worry for my son and fact he won't talk. Through school he struggled and didn't want friends because he thought they would get him in trouble. I'm starting to think college isn't the right environment but what are the alternatives because his choosen career he needs to go to university.
I just hope the OIC forwarding my email detailing the impact on my son does help in speeding this process up. The whole system really needs addressing, particularly when its a child involved.
Hi Ajustcopingparent
I am so sorry that your son is struggling.
Is it OK to private message you later today, probably this evening?
I am so sorry that your son is struggling.
Is it OK to private message you later today, probably this evening?
Hi Alison20
Yeah that's fine.
Yeah that's fine.
I completely get where you are coming from and you're not alone.
my son is a little bit older but in the same situation.
he has struggled socially and making friends while at school and since.
I think covid had a detrimental impact socially. When he should have been out celebrating his achievements he was stuck at home. He then went to college and was socially distanced from his peers and didn't know or have the confidence to mark friends.
Now a few years down the line he wanted to go to uni but daren't because of all this. He quit his job at Christmas and mentally all he wants to be is dead. He doesn't think he's worth anything.
Im devastated that I didn't protect him when I should have. I feel like this is my fault as I didn't check his devices regularly enough.
his dad was awful to him and made him feel like crap and worthless....I didn't protect my son from that until recently.
my son has his second interview coming up and I don't know what to expect.
your son sounds very similar to mine in being alone, walking around places alone. My son spent his lunchtimes alone and made no friends at college. He now has one friend who is online and lives abroad, they've visited each other several times.
my son is a little bit older but in the same situation.
he has struggled socially and making friends while at school and since.
I think covid had a detrimental impact socially. When he should have been out celebrating his achievements he was stuck at home. He then went to college and was socially distanced from his peers and didn't know or have the confidence to mark friends.
Now a few years down the line he wanted to go to uni but daren't because of all this. He quit his job at Christmas and mentally all he wants to be is dead. He doesn't think he's worth anything.
Im devastated that I didn't protect him when I should have. I feel like this is my fault as I didn't check his devices regularly enough.
his dad was awful to him and made him feel like crap and worthless....I didn't protect my son from that until recently.
my son has his second interview coming up and I don't know what to expect.
your son sounds very similar to mine in being alone, walking around places alone. My son spent his lunchtimes alone and made no friends at college. He now has one friend who is online and lives abroad, they've visited each other several times.
I definitely think covid had big impact on my son because he had just started secondary school where he knew no one. He was starting to settle and gain some confidence and covid hit. My son then never wanted friends at school because he thought they would get him in trouble. He was also bullied at school. He suffers anxiety and always been terrified of getting into trouble.
It wasn't until the October before leaving school that he got Snapchat. He had assignment at school for performing arts so working in small group and I think this is how he's ended up here. The stuff he's reported on Snapchat I can only think someone as sent him. The police have told us to just keep hold of those emails where he's reported stuff.
I also think it relates to someone around his age, he was 15 at time of the knock. The police kept saying a child is someone under age of 18. Then spoke of looking for one image.
We have meeting this week with college to discuss the way forward but I'm struggling to see how he can be supported when this is what's impacting him focusing at college. It literally is ruining his life.
For me personally under 18s should be dealt with differently because end of the day they are children themselves.
It wasn't until the October before leaving school that he got Snapchat. He had assignment at school for performing arts so working in small group and I think this is how he's ended up here. The stuff he's reported on Snapchat I can only think someone as sent him. The police have told us to just keep hold of those emails where he's reported stuff.
I also think it relates to someone around his age, he was 15 at time of the knock. The police kept saying a child is someone under age of 18. Then spoke of looking for one image.
We have meeting this week with college to discuss the way forward but I'm struggling to see how he can be supported when this is what's impacting him focusing at college. It literally is ruining his life.
For me personally under 18s should be dealt with differently because end of the day they are children themselves.