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LittleRobin3

Member since
April 2024

696 posts

Hi, someone on my road phoned the Police recently asking about my ex's restrictions (conviction was 8 years ago and I've lived here for over 5 years without any trouble). They pointed out that they knew he was visiting my home and that there are lots of families around here (yes, like everywhere). This is my worst fear having been through the whole press/FB issue years ago. Back then I was threatened with eviction by my housing association because my joint tenancy had been broken because of what my ex did. Of course, in the end, they didn't evict me and my children. My question is, I'm really concerned that someone will have contacted my "new" housing association to complain about my ex visiting his son here. He no longer does as an upshot of this call to the Police. He doesn't live here and has never been on my tenancy agreement. Should I inform the HA as to the situation? Nothing has been breached on his SHPO and his offender manager has been here to make sure it was ok for him to visit. Or, do I sit it out and hope that his upcoming sentencing (yeah, the idiot reoffended) doesn't end up in the press etc? My head is a complete mess trying to work out who phoned the Police etc. I don't believe it was a neighbour. The timings all off. Anyway, not sure what to do. Part of me feels that he's done nothing wrong by visiting his son here but part of me feels I need to explain. Help.

Posted Wed May 7, 2025 9:39am
Edited Wed May 7, 2025 9:43amReport post

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1180 posts

Hi,

I'd sit it out and see what happens. Neither of you have done anything wrong in him coming to your house. He's not living there undeclared so you cannot be evicted and the HA cannot dictate who you have visiting you.
Sending love and strength xxx

Posted Wed May 7, 2025 9:57amReport post

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

938 posts

I agree with Distressed. There is no reason why he shouldn't visit you and no restrictions to prevent him.

Posted Wed May 7, 2025 10:20pmReport post

Poppet

Member since
February 2025

119 posts

Sit tight. If he's not on any tenancy no laws or regulations have been broken, and he's been entitled to visit his son. Its none of HA's business who visits. You'll drive yourself mad trying to work out who's been asking questions. You've done absolutely nothing wrong here, try and leave your flat and hold your head up high.

Posted Thu May 8, 2025 6:16pmReport post

Quick exit