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this sint to alarm anyone and I'm sure a lot of you are aware of it i have been for a few months now .. website called UK red rose and a Facebook page , basically regurgitating the past and present anyone can contact the page with information about sex crimes iioc crimes and domestic violence crimes and they will literally post anything an everything and everyone as long as there is articles to back it up. I seen my young person on there and it brought back lots of feelings it was gutt wrenching and put back out there on facebook yet again for people to share and spread qere 2 years down the line nearly it's never going to stop I have actually wondered how are these websites allowed these crimes are never to be forgotten we have to endure this for the rest of lives , and I see people are being hounded from their new homes after being put out Initially when is this going to stop social media has ruined my families life also as well as everything else that had gone on, and the guy that runs the Web page and Facebook page is brutal people comment on the whereabouts of people like our people then they add it to their profile etc, I contacted my young person's poli r worker who goes out to check his phone etc. and he said I totally sympathise with your family but there is nothing I can do , I sent an email to the local MP no reply, I contacted crimestoppers ironically as harassment be ause this is just causing more stress and harm and personally I can't cope wondering if someone spots him they will rally up another protest and then we have to go through it all again my young person wouldn't cope a 2nd time round of that I know I won't what the hell can be done @lucyfaithful is there anything you can do please this is so scary
This is a complete nightmare for us but I fear there's nothing we can do about it.
it's terrible they are even bringing up people's convictions from years ago and bringing it all to the surface just when us families are thinking things are beginning to settle the nightmare continues there is just no escaping it I don't know how much more worry I can go through this consumes my life then I find a little happiness again and my young person is doing amazing he's oblivious to any of this going on I just fear for his future and suicide is a massive worry if people were to find out where he lives they will post it on that site then it riles it all up again
It's awful. The media in my local area now do an additional online story at the end of each month naming and shaming the people convicted or waiting for sentencing for child sex offences that month. They repost each of the cases and photos despite the fact that each one was reported on at the time by the media that same month.
They have stirred the whole community up and now every post whether it's related to a sexual offence or not will generate lots of comments about the soft sentencing of 'P's. It's got so bad that my son's probation officer contacted him to ask if he'd experienced any negative outcome from all the local publicity and said that they are making contact with everyone else in similar situations to check on their well being.
Like everything else it's a storm we've got to ride and hopefully one that people will soon tire of.
Sending you and your family lots of best wishes and support.
They have stirred the whole community up and now every post whether it's related to a sexual offence or not will generate lots of comments about the soft sentencing of 'P's. It's got so bad that my son's probation officer contacted him to ask if he'd experienced any negative outcome from all the local publicity and said that they are making contact with everyone else in similar situations to check on their well being.
Like everything else it's a storm we've got to ride and hopefully one that people will soon tire of.
Sending you and your family lots of best wishes and support.
I know the exact Facebook page your talking about it's horrendous there dragging things up from years ago if you have done your time and no further convictions I don't know why they can't leave alone it's devastating
it's heartbreaking for families and people whom have spent their time hounding people out their homes that have been free of charges and jail for 6 years plus and the media is stirring it all and it's kids and teenagers that are showing up they are coming more damage than good because people will.defend themselves and the police will be called for what? to remove someone that had been removed and rehomed and doesn't require rehoming it's causing a massive rift the Internet the reason why we are all here in the first place is just pure toxic and trouble
Oh my goodness. Something else to add to the mix. I don't do Facebook any longer. Is it a public page or do people have to ask to join. I just looked at the website. How can this be allowed
Sometimes I hate social media - when used thoughtfully it can be a wonderful way to communicate but how quick the worm can turn, it becomes evil and can ruin lives. I only do WhatsApp these days and of course use this forum.
when my son is released I feel he has served his sentence and as he will have restrictions in place/be monitored - he continues to pay for what he's done - so just leave him alone..
Being honest I would have been judgmental and weiry of a person convicted of these crimes before it happened in our family. This journey opens our eyes to see the backlash and suffering it creates. The unfairness to families, friends and children dragged through this mud too as these 'vigantees' keep their claws in, is horrendous. So in their 'quest' they create MORE victims. Do they actually 'see' this, or just don't care!
My support is given to those going through any backlash and I totally understand your frustration and anger.
when my son is released I feel he has served his sentence and as he will have restrictions in place/be monitored - he continues to pay for what he's done - so just leave him alone..
Being honest I would have been judgmental and weiry of a person convicted of these crimes before it happened in our family. This journey opens our eyes to see the backlash and suffering it creates. The unfairness to families, friends and children dragged through this mud too as these 'vigantees' keep their claws in, is horrendous. So in their 'quest' they create MORE victims. Do they actually 'see' this, or just don't care!
My support is given to those going through any backlash and I totally understand your frustration and anger.
CAGGIE I don't know why ots allowed but it's all public the website and the Facebook page I don't have social media but ofcourse people have shown me and told me there are a lot of people I know on it for all different reasons but yes again people aren't allowed to move on, I too before it happened in my family would have been weary of people but seeing first hand how the media have twisted and manipulated the public in our story I know they have done it to many others , they have opportunities to make situations good or bad and they choose to make them bad they stir it and it's that that causes the public backlash because unfortunately people do believe what they read , don't get me wrong I know a lot of the time the truth is written and yes these crimes deserve to be brought to the surface but we don't deserve to continually suffer over and over I mean the hole in our hearts by our family member is enough pain to take one person down without anything in the media but when this happens I feel like a sinking ship surrounded by great whites ..the fear just rips through me and opens up all the wounds I was doing great until I was told of it and that wasn't my intention to make anyone else feel this way but it's out there and anyone can post into it woth information it's like a game of car and mouse, basically they have the power to post and the public has the power to ruin us even further I'm devastated
They also post about people who have been charged but have pleaded not guilty are are yet to go to trial. So much for innocent until proven guilty and as for having paid a debt to society, forget it! With these sort of crimes it appears the public never forgive or forget. I hate it. It's the absolute wettest aspect of all this for us. It's so unfair.
it really is Littlerobin, that page is just posting whatever they get sent in by the public anything that's being posted in the local rags the public is then posting it onto that site and the guy is just uploading everything this week I seen one guy defending his past refusing to leave his home and standing up for himself publicly very brave of him but his crime was over 5 years ago and he's been out thr jaile several years living a quiet life but because someone knows of his crime and where he lives they posted it on there and created a protest at his home (his crime was not child related ) it's honestly brewing a storm and I dont see any good coming from the web page or Facebook page it's crimes that people know of already but just another chance to spread hate with zero regard for us the families also victims
I suppose though you have to be a certain type of person to be searching these sites/pages out. When my person was live streamed on Facebook none of my friends ever encountered it. It was only when I told them that they knew. It is unfair as none of us condone what our people have done and they've been punished by the courts so then to be trialled by social media again is unfair. My person has 10 years on the SOR and SHPO people have no idea what that entails but still think they've 'got away with it' just because some people didn't get a custodial sentence.
Dear Forum users,
We wanted to contribute to this thread because we understand that groups or sites online discussing individuals and their offences can be really upsetting, especially if it is someone we know and care about. We understand how incredibly difficult it can be for individuals and families to begin rebuilding and moving forward. When pages or groups on social media resurface past events, it can feel like all the progress made is suddenly undone – like being pulled back to the beginning. For many, seeing that kind of information online again can bring up a whole range of difficult emotions, including fear, anger, or anxiety. Those reactions are completely understandable.
We know that when information is shared publicly about arrests or convictions, it can feel exposing and frightening. For some, it can also raise fears about being recognised themselves or someone close to them, judged, or even targeted.
If you or someone close to you is being targeted through threats, harassment, or unwanted attention as a result of the media site or not — it’s really important to know that help is available. We encourage you to contact the police if you feel at risk. Everyone has the right to feel safe, and no one should have to deal with intimidation or harm, online or offline.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, here are a few things that might help:
• Take a break from social media - Seeing this kind of content again and again can make things feel more intense. It’s okay to step back and protect your wellbeing.
• Talk to someone - Whether it's with our support team, a counsellor, or a trusted person in your life, speaking things through can really help. You can also call our Stop It Now helpline on 0808 1000 900 for confidential and non-judgemental support.
• Focus on what you can control - While you may not be able to change what’s out there, you can manage what you choose to engage with.
• Be kind to yourself - You’re allowed to feel upset, angry, or afraid. Look after yourself as best as you can and engage in activities that are healthy and positive for you.
In addition, whilst it can be difficult to prevent a story from being published, there are some measures that you can take to help you possibly mitigate some of the harm:
• Protect your online presence – Strengthen your social media privacy settings, be mindful of what you share publicly, and monitor your online reputation to address false or damaging information.
• Explore legal options – Consult a lawyer to understand your rights regarding defamation, privacy, or false information. Legal actions such as cease-and-desist letters may be available depending on your jurisdiction.
• Seek support – Reach out to organisations or advocacy groups that specialise in media relations, privacy rights, or victim support. They may be able to provide guidance, resources, or assistance in navigating the situation.
You can also find information and advice about the media on our website.
It’s also important to remember that what appears in the media or on social media is often a limited, and sometimes unfair, portrayal. It rarely tells the whole story, especially when it comes to the effort people are making to take responsibility and move forward. It is also important to remember that posts will eventually be buried and forgotten about. What may feel very present at the moment will lose public interest over time.
If anything in this thread has brought up some difficult feelings that you would like some support around, we’re here. You’re always welcome to send us an email on forum@lucyfaithfull.org.uk or call our helpline.
Kind regards,
The Forum Team
We wanted to contribute to this thread because we understand that groups or sites online discussing individuals and their offences can be really upsetting, especially if it is someone we know and care about. We understand how incredibly difficult it can be for individuals and families to begin rebuilding and moving forward. When pages or groups on social media resurface past events, it can feel like all the progress made is suddenly undone – like being pulled back to the beginning. For many, seeing that kind of information online again can bring up a whole range of difficult emotions, including fear, anger, or anxiety. Those reactions are completely understandable.
We know that when information is shared publicly about arrests or convictions, it can feel exposing and frightening. For some, it can also raise fears about being recognised themselves or someone close to them, judged, or even targeted.
If you or someone close to you is being targeted through threats, harassment, or unwanted attention as a result of the media site or not — it’s really important to know that help is available. We encourage you to contact the police if you feel at risk. Everyone has the right to feel safe, and no one should have to deal with intimidation or harm, online or offline.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, here are a few things that might help:
• Take a break from social media - Seeing this kind of content again and again can make things feel more intense. It’s okay to step back and protect your wellbeing.
• Talk to someone - Whether it's with our support team, a counsellor, or a trusted person in your life, speaking things through can really help. You can also call our Stop It Now helpline on 0808 1000 900 for confidential and non-judgemental support.
• Focus on what you can control - While you may not be able to change what’s out there, you can manage what you choose to engage with.
• Be kind to yourself - You’re allowed to feel upset, angry, or afraid. Look after yourself as best as you can and engage in activities that are healthy and positive for you.
In addition, whilst it can be difficult to prevent a story from being published, there are some measures that you can take to help you possibly mitigate some of the harm:
• Protect your online presence – Strengthen your social media privacy settings, be mindful of what you share publicly, and monitor your online reputation to address false or damaging information.
• Explore legal options – Consult a lawyer to understand your rights regarding defamation, privacy, or false information. Legal actions such as cease-and-desist letters may be available depending on your jurisdiction.
• Seek support – Reach out to organisations or advocacy groups that specialise in media relations, privacy rights, or victim support. They may be able to provide guidance, resources, or assistance in navigating the situation.
You can also find information and advice about the media on our website.
It’s also important to remember that what appears in the media or on social media is often a limited, and sometimes unfair, portrayal. It rarely tells the whole story, especially when it comes to the effort people are making to take responsibility and move forward. It is also important to remember that posts will eventually be buried and forgotten about. What may feel very present at the moment will lose public interest over time.
If anything in this thread has brought up some difficult feelings that you would like some support around, we’re here. You’re always welcome to send us an email on forum@lucyfaithfull.org.uk or call our helpline.
Kind regards,
The Forum Team
Lucy from Stop it now!
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I don't seek out this kind of information either but right now where I live people thrive on sharing this kind of stuff honestly god forbid it ever happens to any of their immediate family that they love and care for because there is no worse feeling than your life being ripped apart and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it I don't have Facebook I hate it with a passion and I do tell my friends not to shar information qith me but that site is going to cause so much heartache for families trust me on that and if the police can't do anything abkut it then they better get used to anti social behaviour because that's all that's happening there