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I can't describe the pain and sadness, the fractured tormented world I'm living in right now. The proverbial hand grenade was thrown at my life almost 6 weeks ago, when we hit the local press. I'm not sure how they justify printing awful details of a case, when like in our case, the court have not ordered any restrictions on being around children. He did something terrible, he knows that, he's worked so hard to work through it, shown remorse, admitted accountability and yet so utterly cruelly, here we are. These articles are purely dangerous and take no consideration at all for those connected to the person who's been charged - there's so little consideration, compassion or help for us. When will this end? How will I get through it? Finding a strength that I never knew I had, but desperately wish I could fast forward through this!
I feel like I'm expected to forgo my own happiness to satisfy other people and I simply won't let that happen ....if people disagree with my decision to stay with him that's fine, but I wish they would keep their 'opinions' and ill informed judgement to themselves.
Need serious virtual hugs this morning xxx
I feel like I'm expected to forgo my own happiness to satisfy other people and I simply won't let that happen ....if people disagree with my decision to stay with him that's fine, but I wish they would keep their 'opinions' and ill informed judgement to themselves.
Need serious virtual hugs this morning xxx
Four years post media coverage and can say that it does get easier over time. We all know that nobody truly knows how they would feel or what they would do in our situations.
Sending you the biggest hug, love and strength as always xxx
Sending you the biggest hug, love and strength as always xxx
Sending you a hug. My person is about the same time post sentencing. It was in the local news and Facebook pages so totally understand what you are going through. He's thankfully not had any trouble up to this point and fingers crossed he doesn't.most of the neighbours are still speaking to him so far so that's a positive. We didn't really speak to one set and they have been funny with him but he's just tried not to let it bother him. He just said let's hope they never need help in the middle of the night cos he won't be the one helping them :) I'm sure he would though. I moved out after it first happened but we're still friends and I go to the house often. Keep your chin up xx
Eye x
Huge virtual hugs sent to you lovely xx
The media is horrendous, as bad as it is it will be old news soon enough, its another unfair part of this journey that we have no control over
Xx
Huge virtual hugs sent to you lovely xx
The media is horrendous, as bad as it is it will be old news soon enough, its another unfair part of this journey that we have no control over
Xx
In "our" case - images making and sharing, the Police reporting was mostly to see if anyone came forward having been physically abused in any way by my ex. That's why they reported it. And I understand that. IF someone had been abused, but they were scared to come forward but seeing him reported on in the press gave them the confidence to come forward, it makes sense. There's no other way to do this. Please don't get me wrong, I live in DAILY fear of the reporting. I've been through it once and I'm about to go through it again. I've also had someone phone the police recently to complain about my ex going about his legal business in my road visiting our son. I rarely leave home now, my mental is completely ruined mainly by the reporting. But I still understand why the Police did it in this case. I loathe the salacious stuff, the reports that fail to include certain key information deliberately and the vigilantes are just plain wrong. I really wish the reporting wasn't allowed to happen, for the protection of the innocent loved ones. X
Sending you a big virtual hug this evening. Post media coverage can be a lonely place to be but just like an airport it's a place you'll pass through rather than stay in. In time you will slowly start to put one foot in front of the other as life begins to reshape and move forward.
Sending you so much love and strength! Its another unfortunate obstacle to this entire thing. Look how far you have made it though. You will get through this. You have an entire community here supporting you. I Hope this passes for you and you can begin to move on. Sending hugs your way!
Sending you massive hugs been there done that got the t shirt I stupidly went back on Facebook under a different name but literally came straight back off 2 days later the bitterness and small minded lives people lead doesn't deserve my attention, be good to you and yours and let the rest get on with it xx
I really don't miss Facebook at all. If I ever want to look at anything I ask my friend to have a nosey on hers :)
So sorry. Sending you the biggest hug, and strength xx
I'm 3 years post knock. I had my house targeted several times due to the press and social media coverage.
It does get easier. You think everyone knows - but they don't.
I'm with a lovely man now - have known each other since before the knock and have a lot of mutual friends. He had no idea what had happened to me
Sometimes our heads are our own worst enemy
It does get easier. You think everyone knows - but they don't.
I'm with a lovely man now - have known each other since before the knock and have a lot of mutual friends. He had no idea what had happened to me
Sometimes our heads are our own worst enemy
So sorry my lovely, wise words from your forum friends.
i carnt add a lot to what's been said but just sending my support x
i carnt add a lot to what's been said but just sending my support x
Eye I have sent a pm to you. Katie xxx
Eye, im so sorry you're having to deal with this. Its just not fair. I'm planning to write my local MP about this. Its not fair that we, the secondary victims, including children, have to go through all of this, from the arrest to sentencing, and then have further stress and fear from media attention. They should not be allowed to print certain things, like addresses and photos. Its not in the name of protection, that's what sentencing is for. Wishing you the best and calmer times ahead x