Police Trying to Challenge the Shpo
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My husband (currently seperated) was recently sentenced to a 12 month sentance suspended for 2 years, with 10 year SOR and 10 year Shpo. His offences were attempted communication and possession of images.
We have 2 children together, both under 3. During sentancing the judge put in place that the conditions re children on the SHPO did not include his biological children. As a result legally speaking he could now have unsupervised contact with the children and reside in the same address as the children. Although we have not changed anything, we still reside separately and he does not see the children unsupervised
This week I have been informed that the police and social services are trying to challenge the Shpo as they do not believe that the judge was right in excluding our children from the conditions.
My husband was interrogated for 2 hours this week by probation, a social worker, his mosovo worker and their supervisor. Social services are due to come out and see me and the children next week.
The solicitor states that it is very difficult to challenge a granted Shpo, but that social services will instead try and discredit me instead to limit his access to the children.
Social services have previously assessed me twice, and concluded that I am protective on both ocassions, and therefore I have been able to supervise contact.
Whilst we are seperated, I have always said that I have not yet made a definate decision on our relationship and that my children will always come first above everything else.
I am absolutely petrified at what this all means and what is going to happen. I was just about to see some light at the end of all this mess.
Does anyone have any experience of this?
We have 2 children together, both under 3. During sentancing the judge put in place that the conditions re children on the SHPO did not include his biological children. As a result legally speaking he could now have unsupervised contact with the children and reside in the same address as the children. Although we have not changed anything, we still reside separately and he does not see the children unsupervised
This week I have been informed that the police and social services are trying to challenge the Shpo as they do not believe that the judge was right in excluding our children from the conditions.
My husband was interrogated for 2 hours this week by probation, a social worker, his mosovo worker and their supervisor. Social services are due to come out and see me and the children next week.
The solicitor states that it is very difficult to challenge a granted Shpo, but that social services will instead try and discredit me instead to limit his access to the children.
Social services have previously assessed me twice, and concluded that I am protective on both ocassions, and therefore I have been able to supervise contact.
Whilst we are seperated, I have always said that I have not yet made a definate decision on our relationship and that my children will always come first above everything else.
I am absolutely petrified at what this all means and what is going to happen. I was just about to see some light at the end of all this mess.
Does anyone have any experience of this?
Hi, what a nightmare for you.
After my ex was arrested, the police spent 4 hours in my home going through everything, removing electronics etc. During that time despite the shock I was in, I remember certain conversations I had with them. One of them was my fear about my ex having abused his own children. At this point I and the Police didn't have much to go on but he was arrested on the suspicion of IIOC. The lead detective told me that in her experience, men who commit these type of online crimes are unlikely to go on to contact offend and are repulsed at the very idea of doing that to their own children. I believe this has been shown in studies on the matter. This is simply my feeling but I think the SHPO's in these cases SHOULD'NT include their own biological children especially if those children are of an age where they're mature and articulate enough to say they've never been harmed by their father. In my situation, my ex wasn't allowed any contact whatsoever, no calls, visits or letters with his children aged 12 and 14 at the time. They told SS's on the day of the arrest that he'd never harmed them in any way. When I visited him in prison, the visiting hall was FULL of young children but my own children had to stay at home and cry themselves to sleep every single night because of the loss of their beloved dad. This caused as much harm as the original issue. I hope you find ac way through. Must be very stressful for you all. X
After my ex was arrested, the police spent 4 hours in my home going through everything, removing electronics etc. During that time despite the shock I was in, I remember certain conversations I had with them. One of them was my fear about my ex having abused his own children. At this point I and the Police didn't have much to go on but he was arrested on the suspicion of IIOC. The lead detective told me that in her experience, men who commit these type of online crimes are unlikely to go on to contact offend and are repulsed at the very idea of doing that to their own children. I believe this has been shown in studies on the matter. This is simply my feeling but I think the SHPO's in these cases SHOULD'NT include their own biological children especially if those children are of an age where they're mature and articulate enough to say they've never been harmed by their father. In my situation, my ex wasn't allowed any contact whatsoever, no calls, visits or letters with his children aged 12 and 14 at the time. They told SS's on the day of the arrest that he'd never harmed them in any way. When I visited him in prison, the visiting hall was FULL of young children but my own children had to stay at home and cry themselves to sleep every single night because of the loss of their beloved dad. This caused as much harm as the original issue. I hope you find ac way through. Must be very stressful for you all. X
My OH committed his offence in August 2023, not asked to sign SOR or given a SHPO. Legally there are no restrictions on him at all, apart from being on probabtion until September. SS have made our lives an absolute nightmare, they will not let him live at the house full stop. They have had our daughter on a CPP since August 2024 and have just escalated it to PLO. They can basically do what they want and we are powerless. We are not together either, he lives at his mums and I supervise contact. I've said from the beginning that I cannot make a decision on our marriage until I'm assured that he is 0% risk and they still took us to PLO. I'm under an authority where they have been criticised publicly in the news over scandals that I'm sure people will be aware off. Friends just keep saying that they are covering their own backs incase they get anything wrong. I've read on here other authorities just keep their children on CIN plans for online offences x
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I really feel for you. One thought I had when I read your post was your comment that you'd never have your person back unless you were 100% sure he was safe. SS's might see that as you not understanding because no one is ever 100% safe. They might see that as you risking him being on your lives, because no one can be proven as 100% safe. I'm probably not explaining myself very well. X
I really feel for you. One thought I had when I read your post was your comment that you'd never have your person back unless you were 100% sure he was safe. SS's might see that as you not understanding because no one is ever 100% safe. They might see that as you risking him being on your lives, because no one can be proven as 100% safe. I'm probably not explaining myself very well. X
Thanks littlerobin
Durng the PLO, I wasn't sure if they were trying to catch me out or anything. I did say that after his assessment and it comes back that he may still be a risk then I did say that I don't see a future for us. Currently I'm right down the middle with him x
Durng the PLO, I wasn't sure if they were trying to catch me out or anything. I did say that after his assessment and it comes back that he may still be a risk then I did say that I don't see a future for us. Currently I'm right down the middle with him x