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I'm not sure why I can't shake this feeling but from the start, when bail and now the court order, started hubby must stay at this address, the SS will remove my children. Both teens U16. It's just the way the SW talks. She doesn't like what the court have done. She doesn't like him being here and she seems him as a threat to our daughter, even though both the police and court have said he isn't. Yeah he's got to have supervised contact due to the nature of the offence (non-contact. He was sent images that he didn't want) but this SW, and the previous SW, told me he is absolutely a P word. Obviously the cyber report 100% backed up his story but they don't care about the evidence or fact. They only care about their own personal opinion. She also doesn't like the fact we are still together and believes I should kick him out and file for divorce. I am hardly sleeping. I'm constantly stressed. Why can't they just go away and leave us alone
I think I have put this on a different post some where else on the forum. SS work on different thresholds, in my experience, they completely ignore the legal side of things- they are not interested what the court/police and judges say. It took me a long time to come to terms with how they think and operate, its baffling. My OH went to see a psychologist recommended through StopSo and they have completely ignored the report produced even when it says he is not a risk. I'm with you, I dont know how they can get away with it x
Hi, I can't stress this enough - SS's will say ANYTHING to get you to comply. I've seen the same stock phrases that people on this forum report that they've said and they're all the same. They do it in order for you to panic and comply. They will NOT be able to take your children away. What Judge would allow that given your children's age - the fact they are mature enough and able to state they've never been harmed by their father - and the cyber report you have. I know it's hard, and I'm the absolute worst for panicking and over thinking all this, but this SW is simply trying to scare you into compliance, I'm sure of it. I don't know if it's possible but could you ask for a different SW? I'd be tempted to complain about the one you've got because they're not dealing in reality. Maybe contact the helpline or chat? They might be able to talk it through with you. X