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Jess*

Member since
March 2025

20 posts

Currently waiting on the CPS for x1 sexual communication online with a Minnor/ a police decoy over a two week period. Devices all clear. Husband sent x3 inappropriate pictures to the decoy. He has been honest and explained how he has been addicted to chat rooms talking to women for years. Decoy stated they was just 13 and he didn't stop! What can we expect from this? We have x2 children 10&12. Currently closed to social services with a safety plan in place for supervised contact only. Can't live at home address ect. Anyone's experiences of similar please share. Thank you

Posted Mon May 19, 2025 11:06pmReport post

Caggie164

Member since
October 2023

349 posts

Hi Jess hope you're doing ok. its so hard to guess the outcome in regards to punishment as there seems to be a vast difference in sentences. My person got 12 months suspended sentence. Some rehabilitation days. They said he couldn't do community service for safety reasons (his) in case anyone found out the offence. Then 10 years on SOR and SHPO. He was charged with two attempted communications. Vigilante decoys. No photos found. Then I've seen others get community orders for similar and others get custodial. It's so hard to call. In regards to children. We had none together but he has an adult child so social services etc aren't an issue xx

Posted Tue May 20, 2025 6:42amReport post

Poppop

Member since
September 2023

82 posts

Hi jess

My son was got sentenced

2 yrs suspended sentence

300 hrs community services

10 yrs sor and shipo

He communicated with 2. decoys age 13,yrs

In appropriate photos sent

Posted Tue May 20, 2025 9:22amReport post

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

955 posts

Hi Jess,

My person was sentenced for sexual communication over a 2 week period with a 12 yr old. He received 2 yr suspended sentence, 300 hours community payback, a fine, 10 yrs SHPO and SOR.

Posted Tue May 20, 2025 10:04pmReport post

Jess*

Member since
March 2025

20 posts

Thanks girls. Police are referring to this as " low level" doesn't feel low level to me! How stupid of my husband! What's everyone's experience with social services for this sort of offence? X

Posted Tue May 20, 2025 10:14pmReport post

Jess*

Member since
March 2025

20 posts

Also was any media present for the court hearings?

Posted Tue May 20, 2025 10:21pmReport post

Dragonmama

Member since
November 2022

269 posts

For one decoy no images sent or received, no arrangement to meet etc




3 years custodial sentence (to serve half)

3 images on phone (thunbnails actually cat c and beastiality)

15 years shpo

indefinitely sor



this sentence was 100% unfair but judge was definitely having a day, also no previous convictions etc



ss involvement for years and still no contact

Posted Tue May 20, 2025 11:29pm
Edited Tue May 20, 2025 11:30pmReport post

Caggie164

Member since
October 2023

349 posts

Hi Jess

I didn't go to court so don't know who was in there but it was online that same afternoon. On the Facebook pages of a local paper and the police forces page. It's been on the online version of this papers too and our local paper. No photograph although someone did put his image in the comments from the vigilante page. Touch wood he's had no backlash from this xx

Posted Wed May 21, 2025 6:19amReport post

Poppop

Member since
September 2023

82 posts

Hi jess

With my son case journalist was In crown court

And in papers,but also online newspaper local

Ir was also stremmed all other Facebook, when vilantes turned up at door at

But we all came off Facebook, nothing on there after court

But all of sudden people are starting to recognise him 1 Yr on

Posted Wed May 21, 2025 10:02amReport post

LittleRobin3

Member since
April 2024

773 posts

Jess

the media don't have to be present in court on the day of sentencing. They are often there remotely these days. Also, the Police can report the case on their social media feeds which is what happened in my ex's case. The police reported it on their FB page 6 weeks after sentencing. Its luck of the drawer whether it gets reported on or not. X

Posted Wed May 21, 2025 4:10pmReport post

WorriedAndConfused

Member since
November 2024

137 posts

Husband had no contact offences. No conversations with anyone under age of 18.
He was sent iioc amongst adult images. Didn't look for them and didnt ask for them which was proven in the cyber report.

1 cat a image. Rest Cat c

240 hours community payback order.
3 years SOR.

Posted Wed May 21, 2025 4:36pmReport post

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

955 posts

The media were in court for plea hearing and attended remotely for sentencing. The case was on social media within hours of each court hearing and in the local paper the following week. We got through it though and now live to tell the story.

Posted Wed May 21, 2025 11:28pmReport post

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