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Hi all. Well, now I know why we sometimes wait days for people to post updates after the next big hurdle. When you're further back in the system the people ahead of you are THE PEOPLE WHO HOLD THE INFORMATION YOU DESPERATELY NEED. They can shed light on the tunnel which stretches out seemingly infinitely ahead of you.
But now I've made it through the day of charging, I can understand why people just can't face posting. I won't lie it was a dreadful day, second only to the knock, and was more than just a formality .
OIC emailed me at 8am to ask if he could come and see me at home before my husband's scheduled appointment at the police station. OIC had some completely new information about my husband's online behaviour which wasn't going to form part of the charge but was 'background information' and he would be passing to social services etc.
This new information was like another knock. It demonstrated such an appallingly reckless, morally effed up, irresponsible and repulsive thinking (or lack thereof) and has really put the nail in the coffin of any hope of reconciliation. I then had to keep my phone off until after my husband was charged / had also been presented with this new disclosure.
I went into that familiar shock, but am steady again today, just sad and angry.
plea hearing 5th June.
But now I've made it through the day of charging, I can understand why people just can't face posting. I won't lie it was a dreadful day, second only to the knock, and was more than just a formality .
OIC emailed me at 8am to ask if he could come and see me at home before my husband's scheduled appointment at the police station. OIC had some completely new information about my husband's online behaviour which wasn't going to form part of the charge but was 'background information' and he would be passing to social services etc.
This new information was like another knock. It demonstrated such an appallingly reckless, morally effed up, irresponsible and repulsive thinking (or lack thereof) and has really put the nail in the coffin of any hope of reconciliation. I then had to keep my phone off until after my husband was charged / had also been presented with this new disclosure.
I went into that familiar shock, but am steady again today, just sad and angry.
plea hearing 5th June.
Oh my lovely it certainly is a rocky road we find ourselves on. I can only say that you know you are strong and will overcome this. everyone is here to support you xx
Oh Lisa, that sounds really awful and such a horrible shock. No real advice but you're in my thoughts.
Thank you. I am strong - it's astonishing that my brain has been completely rewired by the knock and I can actually start to process something like this within 24h and resume normal functioning. I slept (yay meds) and have been the steady calm uplifting mum my girls need this morning.
I took yesterday off work and cried on a dear friend's shoulder, literally, and today I'm also off just to recalibrate, so I don't try to lurch from 'crumpled shock' to 'badass lawyer' too quickly. Tomorrow I'm looking forward to donning my grownup clothes and being in the office with my lovely supportive colleagues.
I took yesterday off work and cried on a dear friend's shoulder, literally, and today I'm also off just to recalibrate, so I don't try to lurch from 'crumpled shock' to 'badass lawyer' too quickly. Tomorrow I'm looking forward to donning my grownup clothes and being in the office with my lovely supportive colleagues.