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Bit of good news- so why do I find the negative

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Daisychain7655

Member since
April 2025

32 posts

So my OH had to leave his job on 29th April, after his 2nd interview, and today he has been offered a new job (not public facing and no CRB mentioned so far). Brilliant news but I'm trying not to spoil it with my own negative thoughts of- what about when it goes to court and if they find out. We could be back to square one. Then how does he get the time off for court without telling them. Currently it's been sent to the CPS so just waiting to hear but we've been told he will be charged.



Is anyone else a negative Nancy like me? And also has anyone else's person managed to get a new job in between it all and kept it?

Posted Wed May 21, 2025 6:45pmReport post

LisaMargeMaggie

Member since
July 2024

240 posts

I'm waiting to see how plea / sentencing affects my husband's job; he started it after the arrest as his job of 15 years was thrown away by his stupidity. No duty to disclose in his new job, and it's such a dry obscure area of engineering that I can't imagine public reputation is a factor.

Posted Wed May 21, 2025 6:52pmReport post

Inturmoil1974

Member since
November 2022

393 posts

I think you have to go with the flow and what will be will be cross that bridge when you get to it

Posted Wed May 21, 2025 8:44pmReport post

Sad&Scared

Member since
January 2024

161 posts

I think it's pretty rational actually.

Posted Wed May 21, 2025 9:05pmReport post

Scaredmumof3

Member since
July 2023

115 posts

I do to and have been through this emotion .... even though I am still with my my OH, I also think he should "pay" for this. He has caused all this disruption to our lives, trauma to his family, the white lies I have told to protect him.....the mental load of the limbo we live in......though I am trying to move on and see the changes he has made for the better now.

Posted Wed May 21, 2025 9:57pmReport post

Quick exit