He still maintains innocence
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My OH had his second interview on Tuesday after forensics finally came back. They confirmed the original material and lots more- all stored away in a secure folder on his phone which I didn't know about until Tuesday.
He still maintains he's innocent, that it was all a mistake. He thought he'd only kept 'normal' porn in that folder and the iioc were unsolicited and accidentally stored on his phone. That he used the folder so me/ my daughter wouldn't stumble across it if we used his phone.
I just don't know what to believe. Am I being naive? I have stuck by him for the last six months while this has been happenening but now this secret folder has triggered something in my head that I can't ignore. My daughter still hasn't seen him for months and he's desperate to have supervised visits (not his blood relation) but I don't know what to do- SS have advised no contact but that was months ago and our case is closed with them.
I live many miles from all my family and feel very alone in this.
He still maintains he's innocent, that it was all a mistake. He thought he'd only kept 'normal' porn in that folder and the iioc were unsolicited and accidentally stored on his phone. That he used the folder so me/ my daughter wouldn't stumble across it if we used his phone.
I just don't know what to believe. Am I being naive? I have stuck by him for the last six months while this has been happenening but now this secret folder has triggered something in my head that I can't ignore. My daughter still hasn't seen him for months and he's desperate to have supervised visits (not his blood relation) but I don't know what to do- SS have advised no contact but that was months ago and our case is closed with them.
I live many miles from all my family and feel very alone in this.
I'm so sorry. I must admit I don't buy it. He can get independent forensics done on his devices if he thinks this will prove anything. He can also give you full disclosure with his solicitor (if he has one yet) and the police. I think in your shoes I would personally separate & wait on contact until the trial, as that will give you more answers.
Having had what I thought was a full (and shocking) disclosure from my husband after the knock, only to be absolutely floored by further revelations this week via the police, I'm afraid I wouldn't believe a word of it.
I don't think even my husband knows or admits to himself the full extent of his addiction. Your OH needs to engage with some addiction therapy and understand how this line got crossed. Sending love and strength xx
I don't think even my husband knows or admits to himself the full extent of his addiction. Your OH needs to engage with some addiction therapy and understand how this line got crossed. Sending love and strength xx
Hello, I'm in a similar boat with social. My child isn't his, was advised no contact and that's what I did as I was lost and it seemed the right choice. Several months later, still no contact. It's hard and there's not a day that goes by where I don't think about reopening with social. But at this point I think I have to stick it out till court. What if something else comes up in the investigation? I'd hate to open contact and then stop it again, that'd be so unfair on my child. I don't want to put myself through socials scrutiny to be made a fool again. I say this whilst watching him make massive changes in himself and growing and taking ownership. He's never asked me for contact, he's said the choice is solely mine and he'll understand whatever o choose.
It sucks - I will always look back and never know if I did the right thing.
Sorry for not giving advice but wanted to share.
Everyone's "right thing" is different, good luck working it out!
It sucks - I will always look back and never know if I did the right thing.
Sorry for not giving advice but wanted to share.
Everyone's "right thing" is different, good luck working it out!
im so sorry hun that you are going through this, just because you are alone doesn't mean you don't look after yourself, your heart, and most importantly, your child. he is definitely lying. This case will be accepted by CPS only because the files were hidden. He MAY of had something if the images weren't hidden but the excuse he gave is not strong enough in the eyes of the law. So even if he was telling the truth, it still means he will be stood in front of a judge
worst case scenario he gets suspended sentence
please look after yourself and your daughter. if he's a step father then SS is right to not let him see her until the end of everything xx
worst case scenario he gets suspended sentence
please look after yourself and your daughter. if he's a step father then SS is right to not let him see her until the end of everything xx
I'm afraid I wouldn't believe him. My ex had Cat A images that are inside a file of other images he downloaded. The Police said he hadn't looked at the Cat A stuff but he was still convicted of it. I'm sorry for what you're being put through. X
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Worst case scenario isn't a suspended sentence, it's a custodial especially as he's tried to hide it.
Worst case scenario isn't a suspended sentence, it's a custodial especially as he's tried to hide it.