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I'm almost 9 months into dealing with social services. 9 months since they started my parenting assessment which should have only taken 8 weeks and they're still finding excuse after excuse after excuse and I am at breaking point. She come out today and was asking more questions for the assessment. One of them was how will I prevent my children from being abused. And it really stumped me. I said to her about all of the sings I kmow to look for and she said no were talking about before that how do you prevent it and so I Said to her about encouraging my xuildren to say no, open discussions about how if someone is making them uncomfortable they must tell me and again said no how will I prevent it. Then she said we'd leave it there for today and I could answer the question next time I see her but I am stumped. Does anyone have any ideas what she could possibly mean?
I've been struggling with this aswell as I have been asked how do I recognise signs of re-offending behaviour and I'm just going to say that as it was an online offence only- I check OH's devices. I'm going to say that I asked for his passwords which he gave me without hesitation, I check browsing history and see if he has downloaded any new apps. That re-assures me that he is not re-offending online. Regarding contact offence I have just said I am willing to supervise contact as long is necessary. I dont know if any other ladies have got any advice x
Yeah I explained all the signs of abuse and she was happy with that but she said the question is how am I going to prevent it. I said he'll not be unsupervised with the children ever and she told me that is an unrealistic expectation
I just asked ChatGPT (why not)
- Show insight- I understand the concerns and how serious this is
-Demonstrate learning- I've taken steps to understand abuse and how to recognise signs of abuse (give examples of what you have done to recognise signs of abuse)
- Describe Concret protective steps- No longer allowing unsupervised contact and put boundaries in place. You are aware of red flags and what to do if I'm ever concerned
-Commit openness- Committed to working with professionals and I will report any concerns
Focus on your child- Childs safety, emotional well being and development are my top priorities. Focus is on giving them a loving home.
Avoid saying- it wasn't my fault, there is no risk, everybody is overreacting
Dont know if this helps at all x
- Show insight- I understand the concerns and how serious this is
-Demonstrate learning- I've taken steps to understand abuse and how to recognise signs of abuse (give examples of what you have done to recognise signs of abuse)
- Describe Concret protective steps- No longer allowing unsupervised contact and put boundaries in place. You are aware of red flags and what to do if I'm ever concerned
-Commit openness- Committed to working with professionals and I will report any concerns
Focus on your child- Childs safety, emotional well being and development are my top priorities. Focus is on giving them a loving home.
Avoid saying- it wasn't my fault, there is no risk, everybody is overreacting
Dont know if this helps at all x
Here are the some things you can do
Teach them healthy boundaries (like pants and pantasaurous song if young)
Teach them correct words for body parts
Give them an understanding of 'consent', for example perfectly within right to say no to a cuddle even with mummy
Checking safeguarding policies at nursery/school/extra curricular activities
Monitoring their online activity
Being aware of who their friends are and where children are when out
Meeting the parents & knowing the address if they visit a friends house
Having open communication
Identifying safe adults to talk to if your child is worried, other than yourself.
Teach them healthy boundaries (like pants and pantasaurous song if young)
Teach them correct words for body parts
Give them an understanding of 'consent', for example perfectly within right to say no to a cuddle even with mummy
Checking safeguarding policies at nursery/school/extra curricular activities
Monitoring their online activity
Being aware of who their friends are and where children are when out
Meeting the parents & knowing the address if they visit a friends house
Having open communication
Identifying safe adults to talk to if your child is worried, other than yourself.