All that for nothing
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I have been working toward my degree through distance learning. I am due to start my final year in September. It's just hit me that I won't get to use my degree until all of this is over in 3 years due to the restrictions on my husband as our children can't be left with him unsupervised for now. Part time jobs that work around school hours are rare. I don't have family that can help me as sibling works and my parents are not well enough.
the other thing I would miss out on is my graduation. He can't go himself as there will be U16s there in the audience. The kids can't go as they are under 18 and need an adult with them, which can't be my husband. Sibling won't be able to get the day off and my mum won't be fit enough to make the half hour journey etc. my dad is my mum's carer. I can't invite my aunt's because they don't know what's happened and I want to keep it that way, so want to avoid the whole "why can't hubby go" as for his family, I can't trust them to help out as they let you down last minute
all that hard work for nothing
the other thing I would miss out on is my graduation. He can't go himself as there will be U16s there in the audience. The kids can't go as they are under 18 and need an adult with them, which can't be my husband. Sibling won't be able to get the day off and my mum won't be fit enough to make the half hour journey etc. my dad is my mum's carer. I can't invite my aunt's because they don't know what's happened and I want to keep it that way, so want to avoid the whole "why can't hubby go" as for his family, I can't trust them to help out as they let you down last minute
all that hard work for nothing
I can understand the anger. I would say though that 3 years will pass, you mustn't throw away your ambitions.
I know it's very disappointing but it doesn't take away from all the hard work you've put in to getting your degree. You deserve to have a graduation and be recognized. I hope you can find a way to make that happen
I think it just hit me that for the next few years everything will be so restricted.
Hi worriedandconfused, does your person have a shpo saying they can't go anywhere an under 16 might be? That seems unreasonably restrictive, counting out places like the supermarket? Im just surprised he would be excluded from attending a graduation - it isn't a child's birthday party, it's an adult focused event and any children there should be under a trusted adults supervision so he would never be alone with a child?
He is working with a CJSW for 3 years on different programmes. It's part of the court order. He can go to the supermarket and about his daily life. He had to get permission to go to a heavy metal concert (which is next month) because U16s might be in attendance. That was the first SW that said he probably won't be allowed to go in case he needs to go to the toilet but his new worker said he can absolutely go
it's an absolute nightmare. If he does get to go to the graduation, I'm hoping something can be worked out for another family member who is is aware of the situation can come so I can have my kids and husband there
it's an absolute nightmare. If he does get to go to the graduation, I'm hoping something can be worked out for another family member who is is aware of the situation can come so I can have my kids and husband there