Child in need plan?
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im wondering if anyone has experience of this? My husband was on bail while being investigated but because social services are now involved and are putting a plan in place my husbands bail restrictions have been dropped but we’ve been advised to continue with supervised contact with my daughter, we are doing everything we’re supposed to, my husband is renting a flat and only spends time with our daughter when I’m here to supervise but I’m still waiting to hear from social services about the ‘child in need’ meeting etc and it’s been over 2 weeks since we were told about it, is this normal? And who’s monitoring it? It’s lke nobody’s bothered? Also they informed him today that they are now looking at his iPad because they asked for his password but it’s only been 5 weeks since they took them which seems quite quick? Is this normal procedure too? I was told his devices would go into a queue with a minimum of 3 months for the iPad and phone but the laptop would take longer as that’s in a different queue!?
Hi JB
My girls were on child protection when my husband was on bail and then for the first 7 months he was inside, it then was reduced to child in need which was then closed 4 months later. When my husband came out of prison ss were slow to contact us but end result is my girls are back on child protection.
I hope some else will come along with more experience of child in need.
Big hugs
My girls were on child protection when my husband was on bail and then for the first 7 months he was inside, it then was reduced to child in need which was then closed 4 months later. When my husband came out of prison ss were slow to contact us but end result is my girls are back on child protection.
I hope some else will come along with more experience of child in need.
Big hugs
Sadly i think child services are very over worked. I think the process should be after the referal an assessment is done with you and the kids then a multi agency meeting is planned. A plan should then be put in place and you are allocated a named social worker who regularly reviews the plan. We had an initial accessment which was a chat with me and some games with the kids, that happened quickly (within a week or two). We then had a meeting but i think it was done wrong as we had no plan and there were other issues. They advised supervised contact, which we do. I then had to chase up the named social worker as i wasnt even given their name. After my efforts they came round and did the same thing as the 1st one. Then did a risk assessment with my husband. We appear to be a very low priority which is good so we just continue with supervised contact. We are awaiting another child in need meeting, a child in need plan and the written risk assessment and this is around 12 weeks since our 1st assessment. I guess they just dont have time, i think i expected them to do more and advise more but they dont.
Hi JB72
I am currently going through the child in need plan and my experience hasn't been the best, to be honest. I have a trainee social worker who quite clearly needs a lot of mentoring! They have done 3 visits with the children in school, established they don't think they have been abused and that's about it. I have written my own plan of contact out as they haven't done it, they haven't contacted anyone who could do supervised access for me so I am doing this myself and posted their draft assessment through my door on Friday evening at 9 pm for me to sign and take back today. The report is FULL of errors. They have called my Son the wrong name and have got dates of births wrong, life events are incorrect so I have had the weekend of highlighting it!
Just work with them the best you can. As long as they can see you are fully aware of why you need to safeguard your children, that you are putting measures into place to protect them and to work with them then you shouldn't have a problem. Their aim is to make sure your children have come to no harm and will come to no harm by your partner in the future
I am currently going through the child in need plan and my experience hasn't been the best, to be honest. I have a trainee social worker who quite clearly needs a lot of mentoring! They have done 3 visits with the children in school, established they don't think they have been abused and that's about it. I have written my own plan of contact out as they haven't done it, they haven't contacted anyone who could do supervised access for me so I am doing this myself and posted their draft assessment through my door on Friday evening at 9 pm for me to sign and take back today. The report is FULL of errors. They have called my Son the wrong name and have got dates of births wrong, life events are incorrect so I have had the weekend of highlighting it!
Just work with them the best you can. As long as they can see you are fully aware of why you need to safeguard your children, that you are putting measures into place to protect them and to work with them then you shouldn't have a problem. Their aim is to make sure your children have come to no harm and will come to no harm by your partner in the future
Thanks for reply girls, the sw contacted me today to inform me of our meeting which is next Wednesday she also said that until a plan is in place my husband is not allowed to visit our daughter at the family home, this has really upset me as we are trying to keep everything as normal as we can but now he can only see her in public places, I appreciate where they’re are coming from but it’s still a blow, why have they decided that today when he has been visiting us at home for the past 5 weeks? she also told me we would have a new sw after the meeting and that she would be sending me the details of the meeting out before next week, my husband is under investigation for facilitating to arrange to meet a minor and has denied the charge, does anybody else have experience of this? Do you think the restrictions will stay in place until the investigation is over? Also is it likely they will decide I’m not suitable to be supervising the visits? The sw hinted that because of our 23 year relationship I got the impression they thought I could be easily Manipulated by my husband and wouldn’t be aware of any ‘grooming’ etc, I’m terrified :(
Evening it's all such a scary experience having a sw just makes me so nervous an question all my decisions.
My husband is on bail. He did not see our kids for the first weeks as i was told it needed to be supervised but i was nit allowed to be that person an took then all that time to get back in contact with to say I can organise a person myself.
We have his dad or our friend to supervise the contact and im also allowed to be there.
We had our child in need meeting Oct she said the safety plan was working an to continue with it. I asked about me been able to supervise she sed she did not recommend as my judgment clouded by my love for him been together 19 years. I asked if this wud be forever as we would like to continue our marriage an she sed she yes that did still be her recommendation I was gutted beyond belive I told her I would do anything I needed to like course a ECT. She didn't think anythibg round here is available.
But I will not give up on my family and will continue to fight and prove I can be trusted to supervise x
My husband is on bail. He did not see our kids for the first weeks as i was told it needed to be supervised but i was nit allowed to be that person an took then all that time to get back in contact with to say I can organise a person myself.
We have his dad or our friend to supervise the contact and im also allowed to be there.
We had our child in need meeting Oct she said the safety plan was working an to continue with it. I asked about me been able to supervise she sed she did not recommend as my judgment clouded by my love for him been together 19 years. I asked if this wud be forever as we would like to continue our marriage an she sed she yes that did still be her recommendation I was gutted beyond belive I told her I would do anything I needed to like course a ECT. She didn't think anythibg round here is available.
But I will not give up on my family and will continue to fight and prove I can be trusted to supervise x
Thankyou stardust
im hoping they don’t reach the decision of another supervisor, we have only told 3 people of our situation and I wouldn’t feel comfortable asking any of them to supervise and really don’t want to tell any of my family, I’m still hoping that he will be cleared of the charges but that could be me just being naive, I’m really not looking forward to Christmas now if he can’t even be with us on Christmas morning! This has to be the most challenging time of my life and I’m so grateful for everyone’s support and advice on here xxxxx
im hoping they don’t reach the decision of another supervisor, we have only told 3 people of our situation and I wouldn’t feel comfortable asking any of them to supervise and really don’t want to tell any of my family, I’m still hoping that he will be cleared of the charges but that could be me just being naive, I’m really not looking forward to Christmas now if he can’t even be with us on Christmas morning! This has to be the most challenging time of my life and I’m so grateful for everyone’s support and advice on here xxxxx