Too far?
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On their last visit, the CJSW told us that obviously the hubby must be supervised with the kids 24/7 (he has to to stay here as per conditions of court order). This means if I need the bathroom or to shower I must ask him to leave the house, if the kids are home. He is also not allowed to pop his head around the door to say goodnight or to say a quick hello. If someone comes to the door I must accompany him as he answers in case it's an U16. If he hugs the kids, as most parents do, I must keep an eye on his hand placement "just in case" I was also questioned on how I schedule my sleep around all of this. I told them I sleep at night like everyone else does. She said but he could do something whilst I'm asleep. I replied with the tiniest noise wakes me up (been that way since oldest was born lol) that includes our downstairs neighbour sneezing! this was all said in front of the family SW. makes me wonder if it was said for her benefit or if they are just really OTT
I personally don't think it's too far when you don't 100% know whether he would hurt your child.
I don't know the circumstances of the crime, but a lot of these people in our lives managed to hide and lie about what they were actually doing, and to me my kids being safe is most important!
for you to be seen as a protective factor, you will need to be showing you understanding the risks and possible consequences if they are allowed to be unsupervised.
I don't know the circumstances of the crime, but a lot of these people in our lives managed to hide and lie about what they were actually doing, and to me my kids being safe is most important!
for you to be seen as a protective factor, you will need to be showing you understanding the risks and possible consequences if they are allowed to be unsupervised.
Background: he was sent iioc amongst adult images. He didn't go looking for them. Didn't ask for them. Didn't pay for them. Didn't send any. Zero contact with anyone U18 etc. cyber report proved he was telling the truth the whole time but obviously a sentence had to be given - 240 hours community payback order, 3 years working with CJSW and 3 years on register. He has never been a danger to our children. Even the police stated this when he was being released on bail. Throughout the bail and now these conditions, he's been cleared to stay at home with us.
His court conditions state he can't have unsupervised contact and communication with U16s. Social work said he can't have contact with U16s at all be it supervised or unsupervised, other than our kids. My son is 15 and his friends are 16 (born early in the year). He's been told his friends can't come even if they are 16. It's confusing
His court conditions state he can't have unsupervised contact and communication with U16s. Social work said he can't have contact with U16s at all be it supervised or unsupervised, other than our kids. My son is 15 and his friends are 16 (born early in the year). He's been told his friends can't come even if they are 16. It's confusing
Put cameras up?
I thought about that but the landlord refused to give permission for it. I said it was for security and they said being on a high floor is security enough. Obviously I couldn't give the real reason or we would most the flat
Could you just have like a little camera? Like one you don't have to put up anywhere? Sort of like a baby monitor one or Tapo?
I have one in my living room and our daughter is 2 so she still has a baby monitor for her room.
This wasn't a required measure but I quite often use it.
Although mine is now allowed unsupervised access so it's not to bad.
Also can the kids say goodnight in the living room? Might just be easier.
Regarding friends I dont really know the answer as mine is still little.
Unfortunately social don't listen to police, probation or ppu as they work on a different level and it's on probability.
My partners PPU , probation and the police said my partner was a low risk and there was no reason we shouldn't be a family etc. They took our daughter at birth!
She's home now and he's moving back soon. But unfortunately social work on a different level.
It's so hard. I hated when they questioned about my sleep, her bedroom etc.
I have one in my living room and our daughter is 2 so she still has a baby monitor for her room.
This wasn't a required measure but I quite often use it.
Although mine is now allowed unsupervised access so it's not to bad.
Also can the kids say goodnight in the living room? Might just be easier.
Regarding friends I dont really know the answer as mine is still little.
Unfortunately social don't listen to police, probation or ppu as they work on a different level and it's on probability.
My partners PPU , probation and the police said my partner was a low risk and there was no reason we shouldn't be a family etc. They took our daughter at birth!
She's home now and he's moving back soon. But unfortunately social work on a different level.
It's so hard. I hated when they questioned about my sleep, her bedroom etc.