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Now court is done and my husband has a suspended sentence for 2 years (12 months), his SHPO is internet based only...
just wondered does anyone have any positive experiences with social services after sentencing?? He should be writing up my parenting assessment this week as I've never been able to supervise contact myself this would be a game changer for us.
It has literally been 5 hour days through use of only different 3 supervisors for the last 10 months (family members), this is getting unfair now it's draining the family and we are all after an end.
my husband has done so much rehabilitative work and the court did more complimenting him than they did criticising and the judge has full faith he can move forward in the right direction. I've set up cameras in the home, even door sensors on my sons room that pings to my phone whenever the door is opened, we are fighting so so hard!
does the judge /probation put in any good words to social services? What reports do they receive? Before court they considered my son at "significant risk of harm" from my husband who adores him :(
will this change now? Is there anything we can do to win this fight? External assessments? Family solicitor? Success stories please :(
last question does no contact restrictions mean he can contract children now just not ours because of safety plan? The whole thing seems very vague and confusing to us.
we need to move on now, there must be a way, it's all we want , I hope and pray every day and not ready to give in to these people, our son is very loved and very safe, must be a way to prove it we need him home.
thanks
just wondered does anyone have any positive experiences with social services after sentencing?? He should be writing up my parenting assessment this week as I've never been able to supervise contact myself this would be a game changer for us.
It has literally been 5 hour days through use of only different 3 supervisors for the last 10 months (family members), this is getting unfair now it's draining the family and we are all after an end.
my husband has done so much rehabilitative work and the court did more complimenting him than they did criticising and the judge has full faith he can move forward in the right direction. I've set up cameras in the home, even door sensors on my sons room that pings to my phone whenever the door is opened, we are fighting so so hard!
does the judge /probation put in any good words to social services? What reports do they receive? Before court they considered my son at "significant risk of harm" from my husband who adores him :(
will this change now? Is there anything we can do to win this fight? External assessments? Family solicitor? Success stories please :(
last question does no contact restrictions mean he can contract children now just not ours because of safety plan? The whole thing seems very vague and confusing to us.
we need to move on now, there must be a way, it's all we want , I hope and pray every day and not ready to give in to these people, our son is very loved and very safe, must be a way to prove it we need him home.
thanks
I find it really hit and miss with SS, some have a fairly easy journey with them and some do not. I'm in the latter group. My OH committed his offence in August 2023, online communication, no images involved, not got a SHPO or asked to sign the SOR. He was given a community order. SS will not let him live at the house but they are happy for me to supervise contact. They have took us to PLO and we are waiting to have independent assessments done. SS themselves never really did any assessments themselves, parenting assessment etc.
They should see it as a positive with all the steps you have taken so far x
They should see it as a positive with all the steps you have taken so far x
Thankyou
all my husband has recieved is a blunt email saying "social care safety plan still remains in place".
made me feel really down.
all my husband has recieved is a blunt email saying "social care safety plan still remains in place".
made me feel really down.
This also sounds odd, but if my husbands SHPO states he has no restrictions on contact apprently he can see any child if he wants but not ours?? Surely that's not correct??
so my husband could for example go visit his niece but not his son?? This is a mess
so my husband could for example go visit his niece but not his son?? This is a mess
Sorry I can't answer your question, hope everything works out for you.
I just had a question about the SHPO and Internet access... what does that entail? I only ask as my OH is about to start a new job in a call centre next week and I wonder if he needs to access the Internet how this will affect him and his job. Thanks
I just had a question about the SHPO and Internet access... what does that entail? I only ask as my OH is about to start a new job in a call centre next week and I wonder if he needs to access the Internet how this will affect him and his job. Thanks
My husbands states he can use a computer to use the internet in a place of work but must inform police constable 3 days before so he's probably just best to contact them, luckily the solicitor has sent us over a copy of the SHPO just waiting to hear off probation and social now...we're doing everything we can to get him home they won't even answer our messages....it's destroying us.
SS always argue the point that they work on different thresholds to the Law. They have completely ignored all of the following:
1. The police openly said my OH hasn't committed a sexual crime
2. That he isn't on the SOR or given a SHPO
3. His probabtion officer supports the case being managed as a child in need case
4. His PSR says that he is medium risk and the chance of him reoffending is less than 1%
5. 8 year old daughter is thriving at school, overachieving ( and always has done), no behaviour, attendance or punctuality issues.
6. He was seeing a psychotherapist recommended through StopSo and in the report they have said chances of his offence becomming a contact offence is negligible.
7. School nurse have closed the case as they have no concerns after doing their assessment.
They have chosen to completely turn a bling eye to all of this and will not let him live at the house and escalated our case to PLO
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1. The police openly said my OH hasn't committed a sexual crime
2. That he isn't on the SOR or given a SHPO
3. His probabtion officer supports the case being managed as a child in need case
4. His PSR says that he is medium risk and the chance of him reoffending is less than 1%
5. 8 year old daughter is thriving at school, overachieving ( and always has done), no behaviour, attendance or punctuality issues.
6. He was seeing a psychotherapist recommended through StopSo and in the report they have said chances of his offence becomming a contact offence is negligible.
7. School nurse have closed the case as they have no concerns after doing their assessment.
They have chosen to completely turn a bling eye to all of this and will not let him live at the house and escalated our case to PLO
xx
Wow you're joking my husband is working with stopso and even the judge was complimenting....my husband is doing anything to get home he's looking at an independent risk assessment or family court....there must be a way but not way am I losing my son they're both my universe there must be a way for us eventually ....even the judge mentioned that us being apart is emptional torture.....so cruel :(
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My ex was sent to prison, first offence, IIOC. He wasn't allowed any contact with our then 12 and 14 year olds. No visits, no phonecalls, no letters, nothing. Both children were mature enough and articulate enough to tell SS's that their Dad had never harmed them, never so much as raised his voice to them and that they very much wanted a relationship with him. I visited him in prison as often as I could. I was staggered that when I was there, we were SURROUNDED by approximately 25 children ranging in age from newborns up. They would be sat a matter of a few feet from my ex and would interact with him such as throwing a ball to him and him throwing it back. I was livid! How could it be that other people's children could be in his vicinity but not our own who were suffering terribly! I challenged SS's asking them to justify it. They told me that he could be "abusing them in secret code". Really??! Surrounded by cameras and numerous prison staff??? I actually thought I was losing my mind. The damage SS's did to my children was way worse than the original issue. I literally loathe them. They're beyond ridiculous and the pendulum has swung so far that it's now hysterical. X
My ex was sent to prison, first offence, IIOC. He wasn't allowed any contact with our then 12 and 14 year olds. No visits, no phonecalls, no letters, nothing. Both children were mature enough and articulate enough to tell SS's that their Dad had never harmed them, never so much as raised his voice to them and that they very much wanted a relationship with him. I visited him in prison as often as I could. I was staggered that when I was there, we were SURROUNDED by approximately 25 children ranging in age from newborns up. They would be sat a matter of a few feet from my ex and would interact with him such as throwing a ball to him and him throwing it back. I was livid! How could it be that other people's children could be in his vicinity but not our own who were suffering terribly! I challenged SS's asking them to justify it. They told me that he could be "abusing them in secret code". Really??! Surrounded by cameras and numerous prison staff??? I actually thought I was losing my mind. The damage SS's did to my children was way worse than the original issue. I literally loathe them. They're beyond ridiculous and the pendulum has swung so far that it's now hysterical. X