2 Months Between The Knock & Second Interview
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Our ASD adult son had 'the knock' at the end of March. After immediately engaging a solicitor for him we were told the bad news is this is being dealt with by the NCA so will be a more serous 'crime' but the good news???? is that is will all move quickly. Solicitor in contact today, they are ready to arrange the second interview. Is 2 months very fast for a second interview? I feel sick all over again & haven't told him yet as we're away with the grandkids & return home tomorrow. Solicitor said he needs a responsible adult with him, but we feel we can't cope with hearing what will be in the interview, but I don't want him to feel alone. I don't know if the court appointed responsible person wil be of any help to him.
Hello CedarKey
It sounds like your solicitor is saying your son needs an 'Appropriate Adult' with him for the second interview as well as the solicitor. It is a difficult decision to make whether you feel able to be your's son appropriate adult.
This link is a A factsheet on the role of the appropriate adult, that you may find useful https://www.rethink.org/advice-and-information/rights-laws-and-criminal-justice/police-courts-and-prison/appropriate-adult-at-the-police-station/
Thinking of you and your son.
It sounds like your solicitor is saying your son needs an 'Appropriate Adult' with him for the second interview as well as the solicitor. It is a difficult decision to make whether you feel able to be your's son appropriate adult.
This link is a A factsheet on the role of the appropriate adult, that you may find useful https://www.rethink.org/advice-and-information/rights-laws-and-criminal-justice/police-courts-and-prison/appropriate-adult-at-the-police-station/
Thinking of you and your son.
Thank you, that is what he meant. I know it is cowardl, but I just can't hear the details. I'll know from the charges when he's charged but the details are too much for me.
You are NOT a coward Cedar. You shouldn't have to hear the details about the actions of someone that has caused you trauma and distress, regardless of who they are. And if you don't protect yourself from what you can, you can't be there for your son in whichever way you can.
Hi again Cedar
oh it's so hard, I totally understood what you are saying. I was my Son's AA during his interview too - he has ASD also. I'm really not sure it was a good idea, it broke my heart to do it and I thought it was going to finish me off .
Am I glad I did it ? On balance , yes I am because however bad it was, I knew what the score was (if you know what I mean). Even though the imagination will still run riot, at least I heard it all for myself.
Only you can decide Cedar, my heart truly goes out to you during this hideous time. We are not at the end of the road yet and it's been 3 and half years since ny Son was stung by Vigilantes but the water is a little less muddy - or perhaps I am just resigned myself to the inevitable.
please feel free to message me if I can be of any help , I honestly am not even sure how I've survived so far. Such a terrible trauma which is only understood by others who have trodden the same path.
wishing you all the best Cedar - you will get through this !
oh it's so hard, I totally understood what you are saying. I was my Son's AA during his interview too - he has ASD also. I'm really not sure it was a good idea, it broke my heart to do it and I thought it was going to finish me off .
Am I glad I did it ? On balance , yes I am because however bad it was, I knew what the score was (if you know what I mean). Even though the imagination will still run riot, at least I heard it all for myself.
Only you can decide Cedar, my heart truly goes out to you during this hideous time. We are not at the end of the road yet and it's been 3 and half years since ny Son was stung by Vigilantes but the water is a little less muddy - or perhaps I am just resigned myself to the inevitable.
please feel free to message me if I can be of any help , I honestly am not even sure how I've survived so far. Such a terrible trauma which is only understood by others who have trodden the same path.
wishing you all the best Cedar - you will get through this !
Hi, are you going to support your son at sentencing? If so, the details will probably be read out and discussed, just so you know.
Hi, my husband will go with M to the police station, but not be in the interview. We have arranged a 'responsible adult' ourselves. So M is not alone but also we are spared hearing what will take place in the interview x
A word of advice, some things were stated and insinuated in my OHs interviews that were never mentioned in the CPS report or at sentencing, which in hindsight made us think they were alluding to things to apply pressure. They do use the interviews to press people to admit guilt early on, so be mindful of that. I don't trust the police as far as I can throw them now!
Perhaps an AA would be better for your son at the interviews - and then if you still feel you need full disclosure I would refer to the CPS report.
I was desperate to hear the details so I could make an informed decision about our relationship, but this is your son, so it's slightly different. Sometimes knowledge is power and other times it's better not knowing! Xx
Perhaps an AA would be better for your son at the interviews - and then if you still feel you need full disclosure I would refer to the CPS report.
I was desperate to hear the details so I could make an informed decision about our relationship, but this is your son, so it's slightly different. Sometimes knowledge is power and other times it's better not knowing! Xx
What is an AA?
Hi CedarKey
I think AA means Appropriate Adult.
How are you and your son doing?
I think AA means Appropriate Adult.
How are you and your son doing?
Hi Cedar - as Alison states , AA is Appropriate Adult - sorry ! How are things ? I have been thinking about you x
Aah thank you. I have good & bad days. Solicitor received the disclosure just yesterday & will go through it all in a 3 hour zoom call booked for tomorrow with my son. My son is in a terrible state as am I. But tomorrow we will have a much clearer idea of what is ahead & what the likely outcome will be.