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Hi all,
It's been a little while. My person has been convicted and is serving a custodial sentence at the moment. I chose to go no contact with them straight after the sentencing as I was so shaken by the evidence, but also for the wellbeing of my family and to prevent any further SS involvement.
My person is related to me, and before this we had a great relationship. I have a daughter and husband (also no contact) and my person has had no contact with my daughter at all before sentencing as she was born after we had the knock. I informed the midwife at my first booking appointment of our situation, clarifying that although I did at the time have a relationship with my person, mostly via text message only, my baby would not. This led to a safeguarding referal through the home team and then SS completing a visit, but thankfully our case was closed after this. Not without a hell of a lot of stress I don't want to go through again.
However, I never spoke to my person before court about going no contact. I informed them whilst pregnant that for my family's sake and not having further SS involvement, he wouldn't see my daughter, but once I attended court I haven't spoken to them, visited or emailed. I know my (blood) family have let them know that I need time and I am told they ask about me etc. One of my blood family members received a call from them whilst they were with me and said they were at my house. My person then told them to tell me that they miss me and they love me. It broke my heart and I'm dealing with a lot of guilt from that as is.
My question is, for those of you who have children that aren't your person's, and you have contact with them, do you have or did you have any SS involvement even if they were or are no contact with the kids?
I am thinking about what life will look like once my person is released, and I think they may try to contact me, and I'm unsure if I want to have any relationship with them, or whether to meet them to explain my rationale so it's not so 'cut and run' but I am so terrified of SS getting invovled even with zero intentions of them ever having contact with my daughter.
It's been a little while. My person has been convicted and is serving a custodial sentence at the moment. I chose to go no contact with them straight after the sentencing as I was so shaken by the evidence, but also for the wellbeing of my family and to prevent any further SS involvement.
My person is related to me, and before this we had a great relationship. I have a daughter and husband (also no contact) and my person has had no contact with my daughter at all before sentencing as she was born after we had the knock. I informed the midwife at my first booking appointment of our situation, clarifying that although I did at the time have a relationship with my person, mostly via text message only, my baby would not. This led to a safeguarding referal through the home team and then SS completing a visit, but thankfully our case was closed after this. Not without a hell of a lot of stress I don't want to go through again.
However, I never spoke to my person before court about going no contact. I informed them whilst pregnant that for my family's sake and not having further SS involvement, he wouldn't see my daughter, but once I attended court I haven't spoken to them, visited or emailed. I know my (blood) family have let them know that I need time and I am told they ask about me etc. One of my blood family members received a call from them whilst they were with me and said they were at my house. My person then told them to tell me that they miss me and they love me. It broke my heart and I'm dealing with a lot of guilt from that as is.
My question is, for those of you who have children that aren't your person's, and you have contact with them, do you have or did you have any SS involvement even if they were or are no contact with the kids?
I am thinking about what life will look like once my person is released, and I think they may try to contact me, and I'm unsure if I want to have any relationship with them, or whether to meet them to explain my rationale so it's not so 'cut and run' but I am so terrified of SS getting invovled even with zero intentions of them ever having contact with my daughter.
I should mention, he has a 10 uear SHPO but there are no contact clauses on this as his offence was not communication or contact. Also 10 years SOR.
Will his probation officer or someone else investigate who has relationships with once he's out and of those who have children?
Will his probation officer or someone else investigate who has relationships with once he's out and of those who have children?