Just how much more before I break?
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I had a conversation today with OH solicitor following the 2nd interview 2 and a half weeks ago - with OHs agreement I add - he has promised he will be totally open and honest.
It was even worse than I thought - we knew about the initial conversation with a 13 year old - and at 2nd interview a further conversation was discussed, with a pre-teen.
My OH has not denied these conversations, he admits he was talking to people online sexually, but does not remember any specific conversations or if ages were discussed.
Ages were discussed - the solicitor shared some of the conversations with me. He requested and received a cat b photo from the pre teen. She had confirmed how old she was. He replied 'that's not too bad' (???) He also had a moving image of a 17 year old.
There were also conversations with a 14 year old and a 15 year old. It's all gone to CPS. Predicted charges will be Commumication and making images.
Not defending him but he was suffering from a mental breakdown when he committed these abhorrent crimes. He is absolutely broken - he still maintains he has no recollection - and didn't even recall the 14 and 15 year old being mentioned in the interview. Solicitor says that is entirely possible as he was in shock over the pre-teen allegation.
Given the age of the youngest victim he will likely go to prison.
And a week Monday I have to bury my beautiful mum.
Not sure how much more I can take. I'm just not strong enough. But I can't walk away from him. He needs my support now as much as I need his.
It was even worse than I thought - we knew about the initial conversation with a 13 year old - and at 2nd interview a further conversation was discussed, with a pre-teen.
My OH has not denied these conversations, he admits he was talking to people online sexually, but does not remember any specific conversations or if ages were discussed.
Ages were discussed - the solicitor shared some of the conversations with me. He requested and received a cat b photo from the pre teen. She had confirmed how old she was. He replied 'that's not too bad' (???) He also had a moving image of a 17 year old.
There were also conversations with a 14 year old and a 15 year old. It's all gone to CPS. Predicted charges will be Commumication and making images.
Not defending him but he was suffering from a mental breakdown when he committed these abhorrent crimes. He is absolutely broken - he still maintains he has no recollection - and didn't even recall the 14 and 15 year old being mentioned in the interview. Solicitor says that is entirely possible as he was in shock over the pre-teen allegation.
Given the age of the youngest victim he will likely go to prison.
And a week Monday I have to bury my beautiful mum.
Not sure how much more I can take. I'm just not strong enough. But I can't walk away from him. He needs my support now as much as I need his.
Lostinthewoods, im so sorry sorry. This is a lot for you to deal with. All I can say is that there's no rush right now, even if he does go to prison. You're likely to fragile to make any firm decisions about walking away, so don't. You'll know if and when you want to. Xx
I've sent you a PM xx
I'm so sorry.
I had to bury my Mum whilst my husband was in prison. Thankfully I managed to keep what had happened from her.
My husband shows little remorse, doesn't seem bothered that his adult kids want nothing to do with him.
He never told me the truth. Said he couldn't remember stuff like taking a photo of a friends daughter.
Utter bullshit and I'm better off without him in my life.
I felt sorry for him at first - but realise he was trying to save his own bacon by having me stay and 'support' him.
I had to bury my Mum whilst my husband was in prison. Thankfully I managed to keep what had happened from her.
My husband shows little remorse, doesn't seem bothered that his adult kids want nothing to do with him.
He never told me the truth. Said he couldn't remember stuff like taking a photo of a friends daughter.
Utter bullshit and I'm better off without him in my life.
I felt sorry for him at first - but realise he was trying to save his own bacon by having me stay and 'support' him.
I've pm'd you x
Thank you all of you.
I'm really struggling this morning. I can't even look at him at the moment.
How am I supposed to tell his daughter the extent of his crimes when she already thinks the very worst of him - there will be no coming back from this for her.
I feel so lost at the moment and it hasn't even got to court yet.
I'm really struggling this morning. I can't even look at him at the moment.
How am I supposed to tell his daughter the extent of his crimes when she already thinks the very worst of him - there will be no coming back from this for her.
I feel so lost at the moment and it hasn't even got to court yet.