How did we get here!
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Those who have seen my previous posts will know my 16yr old son is currently under investigation for something the police have given us no information on other than username/email and IP address linke. You will also be aware he totally denies doing anything and we do have emails where he's reported stuff.
I look at him and see a child excited about the new Nintendo console and seeing what games are coming out for it, excited to play fifa. Speaking about what cards he might get on fifa. All normal stuff for a 16yr old or it is for him. This is no different to his behaviour for past few years.
He's no interest in social media, and would never have had snapchat if not for a school project. Only searches video games or music on the Internet.
So how did we find ourselves in this horrible nightmare. Only yesterday a knock at the door caused a meltdown, he was shaking in fear. He'd been baking and our kitchen is at the front so he had seen two men get out of the car and one came to our door (was about boiler grants). But a day that had started well was turned upside down by this one incident. He did let me hug him and calm him down but the damage was done.
I wouldn't wish this on anyone.
I look at him and see a child excited about the new Nintendo console and seeing what games are coming out for it, excited to play fifa. Speaking about what cards he might get on fifa. All normal stuff for a 16yr old or it is for him. This is no different to his behaviour for past few years.
He's no interest in social media, and would never have had snapchat if not for a school project. Only searches video games or music on the Internet.
So how did we find ourselves in this horrible nightmare. Only yesterday a knock at the door caused a meltdown, he was shaking in fear. He'd been baking and our kitchen is at the front so he had seen two men get out of the car and one came to our door (was about boiler grants). But a day that had started well was turned upside down by this one incident. He did let me hug him and calm him down but the damage was done.
I wouldn't wish this on anyone.
I am so sorry that your son had a meltdown yesterday when there was a knock at the door. Is he receiving any support/treatment for the trauma of the original knock?
It must be so difficult for you all, especially as your son does not even know what is supposed to be on his devices. My heart really does go out to you all.
I really hope that you hear from the police soon.
Sending strength and support your way xx
It must be so difficult for you all, especially as your son does not even know what is supposed to be on his devices. My heart really does go out to you all.
I really hope that you hear from the police soon.
Sending strength and support your way xx
Thank you Alison
The not knowing is the hardest part and only read of one similar case on here where all the police said was email and IP address.
No he's had no support. The SS at the start was useless and couldn't grasp he didn't know what it related to. She didn't understand the anxious child he is whose always been terrified to get in trouble.
I do wonder if it's like PTSD but issue is he won't talk to anyone. Even prior to this when bullied in primary school and when struggling in secondary school he wouldn't talk to anyone.
So far I've had 3 weeks off due to the stress. But even talking to anyone doesn't help because I don't want to mention this. Plus my stress will only lessen once this is over.
I just want to make it all go away for him.
The not knowing is the hardest part and only read of one similar case on here where all the police said was email and IP address.
No he's had no support. The SS at the start was useless and couldn't grasp he didn't know what it related to. She didn't understand the anxious child he is whose always been terrified to get in trouble.
I do wonder if it's like PTSD but issue is he won't talk to anyone. Even prior to this when bullied in primary school and when struggling in secondary school he wouldn't talk to anyone.
So far I've had 3 weeks off due to the stress. But even talking to anyone doesn't help because I don't want to mention this. Plus my stress will only lessen once this is over.
I just want to make it all go away for him.
I'm so sorry you are feeling like this. I think our situations are very similar although my person is a few years older but whatever happened was a few years ago and it has taken police until now to follow up. I just keep taking comfort from the fact that whatever happened does not seem to be a pattern of persistent behaviour but something questionable received and flagged by a social media app. The police seemed at pains to say that if no images were found then the case would be closed which indicates, to me, that this is not someone they deem worthy of prosecution. Whatever happened was literally made available to my person by the social media app so I hope, one day, to query how they can justify exposing kids to content that they do not seek out and then reporting them for it and potentially ruining their lives. Insanity.
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We were told if no image found that would be the end of it. But problem is the damage as already been done in my eyes. They've already impacted my sons life. I feel there is literally no protection for young people.
We were told if no image found that would be the end of it. But problem is the damage as already been done in my eyes. They've already impacted my sons life. I feel there is literally no protection for young people.