will police keep me updated?
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short backstory: my (ex) partner was arrested December '24. we were living together and have twin toddlers. all of his devices were seized. moved out of the house to live with my parents the same night. police are absolutely no help and when i have asked for information, i am told im not "the victim" so they can't tell me anything. he is due to answer to bail the end of this month and from what i can guess, his devices have not yet been searched
I was working with social services and they were basically my liaison with the police. they discharged me after a month from their service and our case was closed, i asked what happens now? will the police inform me of what's happening when there's an update?
she told me she had spoken to them and they said they would.
i am no contact with ex partner but he is the father of my children. and i want to be kept in the loop for their sake. im also still unsure if the situation fully, i don't know what to believe. i just want to be informed but i feel as though the police won't tell me? anyone else have any experience of this?
will the police tell me if his devices are cleared or if stuff has been found?
I was working with social services and they were basically my liaison with the police. they discharged me after a month from their service and our case was closed, i asked what happens now? will the police inform me of what's happening when there's an update?
she told me she had spoken to them and they said they would.
i am no contact with ex partner but he is the father of my children. and i want to be kept in the loop for their sake. im also still unsure if the situation fully, i don't know what to believe. i just want to be informed but i feel as though the police won't tell me? anyone else have any experience of this?
will the police tell me if his devices are cleared or if stuff has been found?
Usually no, it's on your ex to keep you updated especially since you're both no longer together. At least that's what I was last told x
The police told me nothing. SS closed our case while he was under investigation and I only knew that he had been charged when they got back in touch and reopened the case x
thank you to both of you. i guessed that would be the case, but i am disappointed. i don't understand why they'd tell the social worker they would keep me informed if that wouldn't be the case. overall, i'd just like to add, i hate the way this is being handled ane i am sure it's the case for every single one of us on here - we are treated as collateral damage, the families are left to just suffer this with out any support. we aren't the ones who have done anything wrong :(
@upset mother, if you don't mind me asking were you still with your partner? i'm worried social services will get involved again even if im not with him if he has done this. i have nothing to hide i just felt so ashamed. it felt awful to hear they were having meetings about my children behind my back i hated it so much xx
@upset mother, if you don't mind me asking were you still with your partner? i'm worried social services will get involved again even if im not with him if he has done this. i have nothing to hide i just felt so ashamed. it felt awful to hear they were having meetings about my children behind my back i hated it so much xx
We are legally married but not in a relationship. Daughter lives at home with me and he lives at his mums, he comes to the house to visit so I can supervise contact. When he was charged, it's his probabtion officer who put a referral through to SS which triggered re-opening the case. They have been a bloody nightmare!!