Social services what to expect?
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We have 2 primary age children. My person is accused of distribution of iioc as shared a link to something. He is living away from the house and social services called to arrange the first meeting with me. What can I expect? I don't know if our relationship is over yet, he says he is innocent but I guess they all do... I just feel so lost.
The initial meeting is usually to go over what he is accused of and find out what you want in terms of contact.
If he has bail conditions these will likely include no unsupervised contact so sticking with them is a good starting point.
Have a look at safety plans and make one with bullet points to go through with the social worker. I'd suggest making a point of either no devices for your OH around the children or that you will hold onto his phone etc until contact is over. It just eliminates that possible thought from ss that he could take pictures without your knowledge. I'd also add that any pictures you send of the children they need to be appropriately clothed.
Ask for their recommendations around other things you could add in. Tell them what your children already know in terms of pants work and privacy. What they know about why dad isn't in the house anymore would be good for the sw to know too xxx
If he has bail conditions these will likely include no unsupervised contact so sticking with them is a good starting point.
Have a look at safety plans and make one with bullet points to go through with the social worker. I'd suggest making a point of either no devices for your OH around the children or that you will hold onto his phone etc until contact is over. It just eliminates that possible thought from ss that he could take pictures without your knowledge. I'd also add that any pictures you send of the children they need to be appropriately clothed.
Ask for their recommendations around other things you could add in. Tell them what your children already know in terms of pants work and privacy. What they know about why dad isn't in the house anymore would be good for the sw to know too xxx
Are bail conditions currently in place? If so, they dont tend to get that involved while he is under investigation as they see bail conditions as a protective factor. They will be very interested in your relationship, they will ask what you know and understand of the offence and whether you accept that he is a risk. They dont see it positively if you are in a relationship as they will see you minimising potential risk. Once he has been investigated and charges made that will shed more light and SS will likely get more involved as they will know what they are fully dealing with then. Its rubbish that we are having to deal with this x
Yes bail with no unsupervised contact. I am trying not to make any big life decisions at the moment but I can't see a future with him if he is charged. If he is not charged then maybe we can work on it. But for now I'm concentrating on me and the children. I do want him to be able to see the children though.