Pregnancy worries
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Well this was definitely a shock (still not confirmed by doctor yet) but, I'm pregnant! Honestly I was 200% sure that it wasn't possible, I struggled for years ttc and needed fertility treatment for my 1st, I've just been feeling rubbish for days thinking its nothing but a bug but I took a test to be sure and...Yeah.
I'm honestly going through a whirlwind of emotions, its a very much wanted pregnancy but I'm worried, I don't have regular cycles so I have absolutely no idea how far along I am as of yet but my OH had not long agreed to separating, we were just about to have our case closed, would this suddenly make SS swoop back in even harsher?
I've only told my OH and he was just as shocked and happy as I was, we both separated or not want this baby but I'm just worried about the nightmare that was SS happening all over again :(
I'm honestly going through a whirlwind of emotions, its a very much wanted pregnancy but I'm worried, I don't have regular cycles so I have absolutely no idea how far along I am as of yet but my OH had not long agreed to separating, we were just about to have our case closed, would this suddenly make SS swoop back in even harsher?
I've only told my OH and he was just as shocked and happy as I was, we both separated or not want this baby but I'm just worried about the nightmare that was SS happening all over again :(
Hi,
congratulations to you both. Did ss agree to close because you've decided to separate? I'd be inclined to email the sw and say that it's not been confirmed yet but you think you're pregnant so could they add a note on that if/when the midwife puts a referral in that they are happy for the current safety plan to apply to baby too.
I'd be upfront with them because you'll be asked at booking in if you're known to ss and a referral put in xxx
congratulations to you both. Did ss agree to close because you've decided to separate? I'd be inclined to email the sw and say that it's not been confirmed yet but you think you're pregnant so could they add a note on that if/when the midwife puts a referral in that they are happy for the current safety plan to apply to baby too.
I'd be upfront with them because you'll be asked at booking in if you're known to ss and a referral put in xxx
They didn't say specifically that because I said we were separated that they wanted to close the case it's just we've been on a ccp for over 2 years escalated to PLO because of how long things were taking but they always knew there was no safety concerns about my child in my care. I'm just worried because I was pregnant before the knock with my 1st but now they could be like "well you knew he was an offender" etc ect.
Thing is they've been trying to get me and my OH separate since day 1, obviously I know I'll need to tell them and soon I'm just worried it'll start all over again and it doesn't help that they're now looking at changing contact, but all the police side of things is completely against what the ss have been saying to us x
Thing is they've been trying to get me and my OH separate since day 1, obviously I know I'll need to tell them and soon I'm just worried it'll start all over again and it doesn't help that they're now looking at changing contact, but all the police side of things is completely against what the ss have been saying to us x
Are they looking at changing contact so that you can supervise? Were the assessments done while you were still together? The most important thing is that they've said that you can protect your child because this applies if you have 1 or 10 kids. If you're a protective factor then it doesn't matter what situation you're put in your children will always be your priority. Maybe put in your email that the unexpected news that you're pregnant doesn't change the fact that you're separated xxx
They've never wanted me to supervise contact and I don't think they ever will no matter how many assessments I have or courses I complete. They want to change it so my OH can only have contact either outside the family home or in contact centres, every one of us said that that's going backwards and ignores every other professional except their own.
But I'll definitely say (obviously if everything goes alright) that I'll be a lot firmer with them as being a 1st time mum I was so unconfident and scared but this time I know what to expect and what they actually can and can't do as all throughout my 1st pregnancy they really took advantage of my vulnerability always trying to scare me and get me to do what they wanted and not what I wanted x
But I'll definitely say (obviously if everything goes alright) that I'll be a lot firmer with them as being a 1st time mum I was so unconfident and scared but this time I know what to expect and what they actually can and can't do as all throughout my 1st pregnancy they really took advantage of my vulnerability always trying to scare me and get me to do what they wanted and not what I wanted x