Am I bad…?
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Just a few questions really....
My Mum was in a bit of a mood earlier and it's coming up to my sons first birthday and my husband has been kept out the home since awaiting risk assessments that are long overdue and social are dragging their feet with everything....
she said how the family's suffering is my fault and the social expected me to leave my husband to make their life easy and to make me a "protective parent" surely I can stay with my husband and still be considered protective!! Because that child is my world I wouldn't let even him lay a finger on my little boy it's so heartbreaking.
is this really how the world sees me? Someone who would endanger my child? It's far from the truth and it's breaking me I can't work out if I'm just overthinking.
also how long did people find it took to hear back from their ability to protect assessment as mine was completed 3 months ago in less sessions than average as we covered it all, I did my own write ups and safety plans and after all this work they've just wrote it up and is with management but it has been for 2 weeks nearly now....also was mentioned if I am a supervisor I can only do one day a few hours at first? When will I be able to prove to everyone my baby is my world :( just because i want to stay married doesn't mean i support or encourage such vile behaviour, he's hurt us and will never be forgiven but he has worked so very hard since the arrest to make things right for the future, I see remorse and hurt but still doesn't mean I 100% trust him!.
also his shpo has no contact restrictions what would this mean for us if we use a family solicitor as we want to continue as a family in our home again, he's broken. My family is broken, I'm broken , it's hurting us so much it's soul destroying we need a way out before it kills us.
My Mum was in a bit of a mood earlier and it's coming up to my sons first birthday and my husband has been kept out the home since awaiting risk assessments that are long overdue and social are dragging their feet with everything....
she said how the family's suffering is my fault and the social expected me to leave my husband to make their life easy and to make me a "protective parent" surely I can stay with my husband and still be considered protective!! Because that child is my world I wouldn't let even him lay a finger on my little boy it's so heartbreaking.
is this really how the world sees me? Someone who would endanger my child? It's far from the truth and it's breaking me I can't work out if I'm just overthinking.
also how long did people find it took to hear back from their ability to protect assessment as mine was completed 3 months ago in less sessions than average as we covered it all, I did my own write ups and safety plans and after all this work they've just wrote it up and is with management but it has been for 2 weeks nearly now....also was mentioned if I am a supervisor I can only do one day a few hours at first? When will I be able to prove to everyone my baby is my world :( just because i want to stay married doesn't mean i support or encourage such vile behaviour, he's hurt us and will never be forgiven but he has worked so very hard since the arrest to make things right for the future, I see remorse and hurt but still doesn't mean I 100% trust him!.
also his shpo has no contact restrictions what would this mean for us if we use a family solicitor as we want to continue as a family in our home again, he's broken. My family is broken, I'm broken , it's hurting us so much it's soul destroying we need a way out before it kills us.
I don't have any answers for you but I just wanted to say I'm sorry your mum isn't being supportive that's really upsetting when you think your mother would be the absolute one person to support you!
You seem like a amazing mum and partner and it's so important to remember people make mistakes! It's your choice to stay with him and you stand by your choice, it's no one else's and if they choose not to support you then that's down to them. I've learnt in life you can't control people but you have full power or what you want to do!
im glad your partner has made amends and helped himself which is such a positive attitude to wanting to change and I think that means a lot! X
You seem like a amazing mum and partner and it's so important to remember people make mistakes! It's your choice to stay with him and you stand by your choice, it's no one else's and if they choose not to support you then that's down to them. I've learnt in life you can't control people but you have full power or what you want to do!
im glad your partner has made amends and helped himself which is such a positive attitude to wanting to change and I think that means a lot! X
Thankyou, just feels that the whole world has a bad judgement of me right now, i feel really alone.
it would just be lovely to speak with more people who have decided to stay and have positive stories to show it is possible, I know I didn't pick the easy option, but im a fighter as long as I have both my little boy and my husband.
It must come to an end soon, this is beyond torture x
it would just be lovely to speak with more people who have decided to stay and have positive stories to show it is possible, I know I didn't pick the easy option, but im a fighter as long as I have both my little boy and my husband.
It must come to an end soon, this is beyond torture x