First post - 17yo arrested
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Hi,
It's my first post here. This morning at 7.30am the police arrived on my doorstep and arrested my 17yo son and seized his devices.
He is accused of "sextortion" of underage girls, there is sufficient evidence from various social channels for me to have little doubt in my mind that he has done this.
He admitted to some of it under police interview.
His arrest was very traumatic, I have two younger children I was getting ready for school who had to witness what was happening.
He was taken to the station, interviewed and they did an immediate triage on his devices and found sufficient to seize them.
Rightly or wrongly I haven't been with him. The chaos and trauma he has created in our home, for so many reasons, not just this, meant I had to make the decision to focus on and support our younger children.
He has gone to his dads tonight, at the discretion of social care because I said he couldn't safely return here until I'd taken care of the younger children to ensure they are safe. Putting him with his dad is almost certainly wrong because he has previously disclosed abuse at the hands of his dad, social care haven't even bothered to contact me to tell me where he is, how he is and what they are doing with him. I am shocked at how out of the loop we are.
I don't really know why I am posting or what we are asking, I think we just don't understand what this means for us now and it would be good to talk to others who have been through something similar.
He is diagnosed with ADHD, on the autism pathway and struggles with his mental health, self harm and suicidal thoughts. Absolutely none of which excuses his behaviour, whilst he may be neurodiverse he knows right from wrong, he's a bright kid and yes he's been let down time and again by education establishments and has ended uk quite isolated in his life, that doesn't change what he has done.
I feel he puts me and my husband in an impossible situation
It's my first post here. This morning at 7.30am the police arrived on my doorstep and arrested my 17yo son and seized his devices.
He is accused of "sextortion" of underage girls, there is sufficient evidence from various social channels for me to have little doubt in my mind that he has done this.
He admitted to some of it under police interview.
His arrest was very traumatic, I have two younger children I was getting ready for school who had to witness what was happening.
He was taken to the station, interviewed and they did an immediate triage on his devices and found sufficient to seize them.
Rightly or wrongly I haven't been with him. The chaos and trauma he has created in our home, for so many reasons, not just this, meant I had to make the decision to focus on and support our younger children.
He has gone to his dads tonight, at the discretion of social care because I said he couldn't safely return here until I'd taken care of the younger children to ensure they are safe. Putting him with his dad is almost certainly wrong because he has previously disclosed abuse at the hands of his dad, social care haven't even bothered to contact me to tell me where he is, how he is and what they are doing with him. I am shocked at how out of the loop we are.
I don't really know why I am posting or what we are asking, I think we just don't understand what this means for us now and it would be good to talk to others who have been through something similar.
He is diagnosed with ADHD, on the autism pathway and struggles with his mental health, self harm and suicidal thoughts. Absolutely none of which excuses his behaviour, whilst he may be neurodiverse he knows right from wrong, he's a bright kid and yes he's been let down time and again by education establishments and has ended uk quite isolated in his life, that doesn't change what he has done.
I feel he puts me and my husband in an impossible situation
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Hi, I'm so sorry you are going through this, the beginning is so hard. For us it was our 15 year old son with images found. Just wanted to message so you know you're not alone, there are a few of us on here with under 18s. Thinking of you xx
Hi Parentsneedinghelp
I am so sorry that you find yourself here.
I thought I would just like to share that young people who are nuerodiverse appear to be much more vulnerable to the dangers of the internet. If they struggle with socialising they may turn to the internet for socialising /connection and can quite easily end up down paths that get them into trouble.
Have you spoken to the helpline? If not, it may be worth considering as they can support you and your son through the different stages of this journey. They offer a course specifically for young people which may be worth looking into as it can help the young person understand how they ended up down this path and educate them on the dangers of the internet and the law.
Thinking of you
I am so sorry that you find yourself here.
I thought I would just like to share that young people who are nuerodiverse appear to be much more vulnerable to the dangers of the internet. If they struggle with socialising they may turn to the internet for socialising /connection and can quite easily end up down paths that get them into trouble.
Have you spoken to the helpline? If not, it may be worth considering as they can support you and your son through the different stages of this journey. They offer a course specifically for young people which may be worth looking into as it can help the young person understand how they ended up down this path and educate them on the dangers of the internet and the law.
Thinking of you