21 months and counting
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We had that knock on the door over 21 months ago... and still no sign of any progression with the case.
Has anyone else waited this long (or longer). Living life in limbo like this is torture. When my husband's bail got extended at 18 months for another 6 months I totally unravelled and ended up in the psychiatric hospital for several weeks.
My poor children are without either of their parents right now living with my parents. Thankfully they are happy and healthy and settled but the mum guilt in all of this, trying to keep life as 'normal' as possible for their sakes is unbearable.
Is there ANYTHING that anyone can do to speed this up? I just want it over with so that at least we know what we are facing and can move on with that.
Has anyone else waited this long (or longer). Living life in limbo like this is torture. When my husband's bail got extended at 18 months for another 6 months I totally unravelled and ended up in the psychiatric hospital for several weeks.
My poor children are without either of their parents right now living with my parents. Thankfully they are happy and healthy and settled but the mum guilt in all of this, trying to keep life as 'normal' as possible for their sakes is unbearable.
Is there ANYTHING that anyone can do to speed this up? I just want it over with so that at least we know what we are facing and can move on with that.
Do you have a solicitor? Can you ask them to follow up with police?
3 years and 3 months from knock to sentencing with 6 sentencing adjournments. Complete torture. The courts are completely overwhelmed. The only thing you can do is ask the solicitor to chase things but it kind of depends where abouts you are in the process. It was only when it came to the 6 court adjournments did the Solicitor write to the Judge to complain. Up to that point it's pointless.
Thanks for sharing, that is such a long time. Do you feel any better on the other side of the sentencing or is it just a different sort of hurt? My worry is that I'm waiting for the next step in the hope of improving life but that actually things will only stay the same or get worse.
Bluebell88
For me it's been relentless because my person reoffended. I've actually been loving this for over 8 years and it's completely wrecked every single aspect of my life. He's in prison for the second time. Recently, someone in my street phoned the Police to ask if my ex has any restrictions on him because they had seen his conviction from 8 years ago and knew "he visits her and her son". They didn't know about the reoffending so they were referring to his original offence 8 years ago. It never seems to go away, for us. X
For me it's been relentless because my person reoffended. I've actually been loving this for over 8 years and it's completely wrecked every single aspect of my life. He's in prison for the second time. Recently, someone in my street phoned the Police to ask if my ex has any restrictions on him because they had seen his conviction from 8 years ago and knew "he visits her and her son". They didn't know about the reoffending so they were referring to his original offence 8 years ago. It never seems to go away, for us. X