Negative impact on my son's first year at college
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So as my son nears the end of his first year at college it's clear to see the negative impact this is having. It will also be in a months time a year to the knock and still no nearer to knowing exactly what he's supposed to have done.
We've a son whose gone from a straight A student with grades 7 to 9s in all subjects that were higher papers to basically failing one subject in his first year of A levels and not much better in other 2. I know A levels are different but a child who was so focused at school doesn't just become a child struggling to even pass. Today we've got a meeting to discuss the way forward and I know it's going to be a difficult meeting.
One thing I wasn't aware of was who at college is actually told about my sons situation. I presumed it was just the safeguarding department.
I've now had 5 weeks off with stress and now got 2 weeks leave before phased return to work.
For me this just highlights how each case is individual, not black and white and there is literally no protection for 'kids' that are caught up in this nightmare. There's no thought of their mental health or wellbeing. But the system will never change.
We've a son whose gone from a straight A student with grades 7 to 9s in all subjects that were higher papers to basically failing one subject in his first year of A levels and not much better in other 2. I know A levels are different but a child who was so focused at school doesn't just become a child struggling to even pass. Today we've got a meeting to discuss the way forward and I know it's going to be a difficult meeting.
One thing I wasn't aware of was who at college is actually told about my sons situation. I presumed it was just the safeguarding department.
I've now had 5 weeks off with stress and now got 2 weeks leave before phased return to work.
For me this just highlights how each case is individual, not black and white and there is literally no protection for 'kids' that are caught up in this nightmare. There's no thought of their mental health or wellbeing. But the system will never change.
Hi Ajustcopingparent
I am so sorry that you and your son are in this position and I truly feel sad after reading your post.
It is simply quite shocking that young people are not processed and dealt with much quicker by the police. It saddens me that the police simply dont seem to care about the young person's wellbeing and mental health with these long timescales.
Sending you support and I hope all goes well with the college meeting.
I am so sorry that you and your son are in this position and I truly feel sad after reading your post.
It is simply quite shocking that young people are not processed and dealt with much quicker by the police. It saddens me that the police simply dont seem to care about the young person's wellbeing and mental health with these long timescales.
Sending you support and I hope all goes well with the college meeting.
Thank you Alison20.
The meeting ended better than it started. At start he was having panic attack because the meeting room had glass windows so people could see in. But in the end he's changing subjects and seems happier. Only downside for going to university he would have to move away and I'm not 100% sure he could deal with that but then it might be best thing for his confidence.
Didn't get to discuss support and possible autism but that was probably for the best.
Hopefully this will take some pressure off him. Just need this horrible nightmare to be over.
The meeting ended better than it started. At start he was having panic attack because the meeting room had glass windows so people could see in. But in the end he's changing subjects and seems happier. Only downside for going to university he would have to move away and I'm not 100% sure he could deal with that but then it might be best thing for his confidence.
Didn't get to discuss support and possible autism but that was probably for the best.
Hopefully this will take some pressure off him. Just need this horrible nightmare to be over.
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Even though I'm praying this will end with a good outcome I still feel the damage was done on day one. Plus the length of time it's taking is only damaging him further.
I'm clinging on to fact we have proof of him reporting stuff. We just need the device check to come back. A friend said maybe other kids in his year are also being in investigated and thats why we are not being told anything. But I just hope if this comes to nothing we are provided with further insight. Otherwise we will be constantly worrying.
I have considered going to a local MP to raise issues about the police service in all of this but then again don't want to put spotlight on us as a family.
I'm clinging on to fact we have proof of him reporting stuff. We just need the device check to come back. A friend said maybe other kids in his year are also being in investigated and thats why we are not being told anything. But I just hope if this comes to nothing we are provided with further insight. Otherwise we will be constantly worrying.
I have considered going to a local MP to raise issues about the police service in all of this but then again don't want to put spotlight on us as a family.