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Caggie164

Member since
October 2023

365 posts

My person has just had his second visit from his offender manager. Checked his phone etc. He said they're pleasant enough. Then he's asked the question about has he had sex. Has he masturbated. Both were no as he's having chemo so to be blunt he said there's nothing happening in that department anyway. What if he said yes though. Is that wrong or is another set of questions then asked. Thanks all x

Posted Fri June 27, 2025 6:44amReport post

26a20

Member since
December 2024

141 posts

My partner said similar questions were asked of him whist he was on SOR and being visited by PPU officers. Alot of questions about pornography use how often, what sort etc. I would guess the questions about if he is having sex with anyone would be so they can decide if they need to contact the other party and disclose the offences.

Posted Fri June 27, 2025 1:02pmReport post

Caggie164

Member since
October 2023

365 posts

Thanks for the reply. I understand fully the fact of having to maybe inform any potential partners and I guess the other question about if he is masturbating then they'd be asking what he thinks about it he does.

Posted Fri June 27, 2025 2:45pmReport post

PrairieMom

Member since
May 2024

154 posts

Caggie, I believe you are correct that they want to make sure it is healthy partners/fantasies. My husband group was given this to do as "homework". It'envouraged. Your husband has a good reason with chemo to not be interested in anything right now. I'm sorry you're both dealing with this health issue on top of the other stuff.

Posted Fri June 27, 2025 5:42pmReport post

Caggie164

Member since
October 2023

365 posts

Thanks for the reply prairie. He's having positive results from the treatment so all going in the right direction x

Posted Fri June 27, 2025 7:39pmReport post

Ocean

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September 2023

982 posts

I think the questions asked are standard questions. When I asked my son if he knew why the questions were asked he said he thought it was to help the offender manage gauge whether any intervention or help was required. Many of our people have found themselves where they are due to their sexual behaviour and the police want to assess the risk of them adopting similar patterns of behaviour again. It is also as already mentioned to establish any potential new relationships which may require a disclosure.

My son doesn't feel it's about right or wrong answers but is merely an assessment tool to help establish if any further advice, action or help is needed in maintaining healthy sexual behaviour.

Caggie, I'm pleased to hear your husbands treatment is going well and that you are both doing ok.

Posted Sat June 28, 2025 10:35am
Edited Sat June 28, 2025 10:36amReport post

Caggie164

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October 2023

365 posts

Thanks Ocean

Posted Sun June 29, 2025 3:05pmReport post

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