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Quick background: husband arrested, I moved out with kids, received suspended sentence and supervised contact still ongoing.
It was sports day today for my children and it made me realise that they are missing out having their dad there when everyone else's dad seem to be there!
They will miss out so much of their dad not being involved and I know it's not my fault but it isn't theirs either and I don't want them to look back on their childhood and feel they missed something!
never wanted to be a single parent and im sure that the kids wanted both parents but because he acted in the way he did they miss out!
I don't want him part of their school life in case someone found out about what he did and it impacted them but sometimes just hate how life is for them now x
It was sports day today for my children and it made me realise that they are missing out having their dad there when everyone else's dad seem to be there!
They will miss out so much of their dad not being involved and I know it's not my fault but it isn't theirs either and I don't want them to look back on their childhood and feel they missed something!
never wanted to be a single parent and im sure that the kids wanted both parents but because he acted in the way he did they miss out!
I don't want him part of their school life in case someone found out about what he did and it impacted them but sometimes just hate how life is for them now x
Hi, maybe try to see it as what your children DO have with their Dad? My husband, father to my children got sent to prison. My youngest two weren't allowed any contact whatsoever for 2 and 4 years because of their age. He was sent to prison again a few weeks ago so I'm left dealing with the fact my youngest isn't going to be able to see or speak to him again for the next year. I'd have given anything to have the contact your children have with their Dad. Make those times special and cherish them. Wishing you all the best. X
I feel exactly the same. I also carry guilt that they don't get to see their dad more than once a month. I don't want their dad around school or clubs because I know that this would cause more problems such as bullying or loss of friends (not that he recognises this) but it's still hard seeing other dads there and knowing that they will never get that relationship with their dad. I have to remember that this is becuase of what he did, not becuase of me. It all comes down to the fact that if their dad hadn't done what he did then we would still be a happy family. One of my biggest worries is that my children will grow up resenting me because they think I kept their dad away from them when he wanted to see them. We are in such a difficult position, trying to protect our children but also keep them happy.