Help :( assessment failed because I’m with my husband????
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So after going above and beyond for my capacity to protect assessment the current recommendation is is can't supervise....only reason being my bond with my husband is strong, it's even full on positives , I feel like my world is falling apart , I've fought with everything I have to show my son is my priority, just wondering if anyone can give me any positive experiences with a similar situation?
My husband is now going to a family solicitor just wondering if anybody has any success stories? The social services are having a talk with me (god knows when) and finding potential courses I can do but to me nothing feels good enough no more, I thought I'd be close to the end of this and soon my husband be home...he's still having his risk assessment I mean can he get unsupervised from social services assessment or are they always strict??
I feel like me supervising was his only way back home :,( I'm crying my absolute heart out,
also they keep mentioning about how would I know if he's reoffending and I'm looking at mobile/devices monitoring apps can anyone recommend any please
thankyou from a broken mother who's failed her son (or it feels that way) :( I'm losing my strength, is there a way for him to come home, he has no restrictions on SHPO....
My husband is now going to a family solicitor just wondering if anybody has any success stories? The social services are having a talk with me (god knows when) and finding potential courses I can do but to me nothing feels good enough no more, I thought I'd be close to the end of this and soon my husband be home...he's still having his risk assessment I mean can he get unsupervised from social services assessment or are they always strict??
I feel like me supervising was his only way back home :,( I'm crying my absolute heart out,
also they keep mentioning about how would I know if he's reoffending and I'm looking at mobile/devices monitoring apps can anyone recommend any please
thankyou from a broken mother who's failed her son (or it feels that way) :( I'm losing my strength, is there a way for him to come home, he has no restrictions on SHPO....
Are you in the PLO process? If not, it is hard to find solicitors who will get involved at child in need and child protection level. I found one and they charged £180 for sending a letter which the local authority's legal team and SS wouldn't respond to as we were not in PLO at that point. Solicitors are only interested in PLO. My heart goes out to you and this is the horrible experience with SS, they want the dad out the picture which is what I'm experiencing. Are you both still in a relationship? They routinely say that you cannot protect/supervise whilst in a relationship which is just stupid xx
I don't get it. They told me at the beginning that I'm not expected to leave my own husband, I've heard it's worked out for other women so I don't understand .....
Ive told them I can't keep my life on hold any more all I'm getting is I have a need for emotional stability (who doesn't after the worst year of my life).....and I'm putting my emotional needs before my own because of my bond with my husband what the hell :( must be a way to prove myself
Ive told them I can't keep my life on hold any more all I'm getting is I have a need for emotional stability (who doesn't after the worst year of my life).....and I'm putting my emotional needs before my own because of my bond with my husband what the hell :( must be a way to prove myself
It is really tricky, you have my sympathy. It boils down to SS and who you get. Some are helpful and supportive and some are not. Me and my OH dont live together and are not in a relationship, he lives at him mums about 12 miles away. SS said in their latest assessment that I'm prioritising my OH over my child. I was like WTF we are not even together! He comes to the house to see our daughter which I supervise. I was trying to find the right words to describe my situation with them and its - moral discomfort. It doesnt sit well with them the conversation he got involved in, despite the police finding no evidence and not being asked to sign the SOR or given a SHPO, SS wont't let it go. They can't prove he isnt a risk therefore they will keep their claws into us. They escalated us to PLO due to drift and delay on CPP as they literally did nothing for 8 months because they didn't know what to do x
Upset mother if you don't mind me asking what causes them to take things to PLO? I've never heard the term mentioned from them at any point but our CPP been going on over a year now and they have bought forward our conference by 3 months as they think everything be done assessment wise but since I've not been deemed capable despite a very positive assessment I guess it will continue? :( I said all the right things, was just because I have a "strong emotional bond" with my husband, I have it my all and I'm honestly mortified I've not slept or anything.
controlling is with their opinions it's not fair, no mother would put their child around a dangerous person.
controlling is with their opinions it's not fair, no mother would put their child around a dangerous person.
In reality PLO should only be triggered when there is no improvement on CPP or if risks cannot be managed/increase ie child is suffering harm. With me it was triggered due to funding issues which is outrageous. On a CPP they wouldnt fund an assessment with Lucy Faithful or any assessment for my OH. They had to escalate to PLO to secure the funding. We are really challenging them on this in a stage 3 complaint. You have to challenge them because they will never admit they have made a mistake so you have to prove it to them which is just absurd.
My OH was seeing a therapist via StopSo for a number of months on a weekly basis and SS have dismissed the report.
They are completely ignoring my daughters views and how well she is doing. She is nearly nine, has never said anything negative about her dad. Is over achieving at school, has perfect attendence and puncuality and has no unmet needs. I want my complaint to go to the ombudsman beause I have a lot to say! xx
My OH was seeing a therapist via StopSo for a number of months on a weekly basis and SS have dismissed the report.
They are completely ignoring my daughters views and how well she is doing. She is nearly nine, has never said anything negative about her dad. Is over achieving at school, has perfect attendence and puncuality and has no unmet needs. I want my complaint to go to the ombudsman beause I have a lot to say! xx