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Hello,
I posted before about my persons court case being over with and waiting on SS well the dreaded day has come where I've had the phone call to say they're allocating a social worker to come out and see us.
Basically they want to do risk assessments to see if my person is allowed home, has anybody had experience with this?
I'm assuming they mean we will both have to have one and they're seeing if I can keep our children safe.
I always panic when speaking to them so I feel physically sick again as to what's coming and have no idea what to say to them
Any advice greatly received.
I posted before about my persons court case being over with and waiting on SS well the dreaded day has come where I've had the phone call to say they're allocating a social worker to come out and see us.
Basically they want to do risk assessments to see if my person is allowed home, has anybody had experience with this?
I'm assuming they mean we will both have to have one and they're seeing if I can keep our children safe.
I always panic when speaking to them so I feel physically sick again as to what's coming and have no idea what to say to them
Any advice greatly received.
Hi- It depends on what he was charged with - has he been given custodial/non custodial? Given a SHPO or asked to sign the SOR? SS will take this into account.
They will ask if are you in a relationship, do you want him back home etc..
Many women on here including myself have experience of SS not liking you to be in a relationship with your partner. They may not say it to your face but they use it against you. They are very sneaky! x
They will ask if are you in a relationship, do you want him back home etc..
Many women on here including myself have experience of SS not liking you to be in a relationship with your partner. They may not say it to your face but they use it against you. They are very sneaky! x
Hi, he has 12 months weekly probation, 5 years SOR and an shpo that only restricts him deleting internet history.
You will need to show them that you are prioritising your child if you want to live together as a family. I doubt very much they will allow unsupervised access. Show that you are setting boundaries- supervise contact, he isnt allowed to do any personal care etc. You will need to emphasise your priority is your child, not your partner unfortunately xx
I'd be happy with supervised, since the day our child was born I've been the one that's done all the personal care etc because I was home more (worked less hours) and that's just how it stayed.
It sounds awful when I write it down but he's not a "hands on" dad with regards to that he's more of a there when you need him, will work his finger's to the bone to provide and organises fun days out dad. So in a way we've always done some kind of supervised access without realising lol
I've got Amazon devices in every room that have cameras I can access from my phone, lockable bathrooms up and down stairs, there's plenty of things I already have and do that safeguard my child so I'm hoping SS see this as a positive
It sounds awful when I write it down but he's not a "hands on" dad with regards to that he's more of a there when you need him, will work his finger's to the bone to provide and organises fun days out dad. So in a way we've always done some kind of supervised access without realising lol
I've got Amazon devices in every room that have cameras I can access from my phone, lockable bathrooms up and down stairs, there's plenty of things I already have and do that safeguard my child so I'm hoping SS see this as a positive
Don't let others scare you. Everyone is so different.
We are in a child in need plan now with the aim that in six weeks, hubby will be back. Exactly same SHPO and sentence as you.
Obviously we aren't 100% sure how it'll go but it's all looking very positive that he'll be back from all sides so far.
We are in a child in need plan now with the aim that in six weeks, hubby will be back. Exactly same SHPO and sentence as you.
Obviously we aren't 100% sure how it'll go but it's all looking very positive that he'll be back from all sides so far.
Thank you! That gives me some hope, SS came out yesterday I've got to wait 2 weeks for a decision so fingers crossed
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