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Sorry to ask again as I already asked on the family and friends topic board but I feel it will be more viewed here :,)
I know this is cheeky asking but i guess you could say im getting desperate at this point.....does anyone have advice on how to do a really good in depth safety plan or one I could take a read of please (and not copy just for inspiration!) I'm not the best at writing things up and I feel I really need to do one to show to social services how serious I am about being able to supervise! At this moment they just keep saying no but compliment how hard I'm trying it's madness :,)
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I know this is cheeky asking but i guess you could say im getting desperate at this point.....does anyone have advice on how to do a really good in depth safety plan or one I could take a read of please (and not copy just for inspiration!) I'm not the best at writing things up and I feel I really need to do one to show to social services how serious I am about being able to supervise! At this moment they just keep saying no but compliment how hard I'm trying it's madness :,)
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If they're saying no I'd ask what you can do to work on that. What would it take for that to be allowed (to demonstrate you are serious and willing to put in the work). I did the Lucy Faithful course for relatives and also lots of online reading from charities about child protection and how to spot the signs. I set up a lot of restrictions for our internet and devices, did some education about safety online and got a book suitable for children called "someone should have told me", went back over the pants work. Enforced boundaries in that my ex wasn't allowed a phone whilst on the house having visits with my child. I also went through a gruelling capacity to protect assessment with a different social worker who did a report deciding on whether I was able to supervise.
I looked into what we'd do as my child got older, managing things like days out, what about when they needed a phone or wanted social apps, friends coming to sleep over or spending time with my child (dad isn't there), what I'd do to keep my child safe if the ex reoffended, if they were bullied about it. All these things we documented in a safety plan. Stop it now has a template you can use. I emphasised doing contact because it was what my child wanted and how I was trying to keep it safe but normal for them and their happiness. But the biggest shift in their attitude and help/support was when I said I would be separating from my husband and not getting back together. Read into that what you will.
I looked into what we'd do as my child got older, managing things like days out, what about when they needed a phone or wanted social apps, friends coming to sleep over or spending time with my child (dad isn't there), what I'd do to keep my child safe if the ex reoffended, if they were bullied about it. All these things we documented in a safety plan. Stop it now has a template you can use. I emphasised doing contact because it was what my child wanted and how I was trying to keep it safe but normal for them and their happiness. But the biggest shift in their attitude and help/support was when I said I would be separating from my husband and not getting back together. Read into that what you will.
I have one somewhere on my laptop that I used about 18mobth ago. DM me.
Holdingthegrenade Thankyou I'll take that on board, I have made it clear to them I do want a future with my husband just feels like I'm being scrutinised on that alone
Hopefully they can see I'm dead serious , which I am, my son will always come first, we've been together 13 years, no intentions to throw it away when he's working so hard on himself and has been an incredible dad through all this honestly...
of course they already know if he stepped out of line even a tiny bit he would be long gone!! Strong Bond or not! X
Hopefully they can see I'm dead serious , which I am, my son will always come first, we've been together 13 years, no intentions to throw it away when he's working so hard on himself and has been an incredible dad through all this honestly...
of course they already know if he stepped out of line even a tiny bit he would be long gone!! Strong Bond or not! X