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Lolar1234

Member since
October 2023

14 posts

Hi there,i dont know if anyone can advise but if a suspended sentence has been given and a SHPO but with supervision restrictions dropped what can be done about this if you are not happy with that outcome? Does anyone know how you apply for legal aid for a non molestation order or prohibited steps order? And does anyone know what advice can be given around this?

Many thanks

Posted Tue July 8, 2025 7:03pmReport post

Holdingthegrenade

Member since
June 2024

237 posts

Hopefully someone will come and provide a better answer. We're social services involved at all? My person's conditions state supervised unless authorised by social services which means they have the final say (and prior to our sign off had indicated they'd never allow unsupervised) so they hold the trump card. I am able to supervise but find it draining emotionally and physically having to be on your guard constantly so have stood my ground and said I'll only do it for short spells, special occasions I.e Christmas or birthdays where you would expect the child would want both parents there, and on occasions where there is nobody else available to supervise. I also would not be happy with unsupervised at this point. Not until their conviction was spent, and there was strong evidence my person was actively ensuring their behaviours had changed and stuck to it. Currently they've done the basics to satisfy social services and offender manager but I'd want much higher assurance and commitment before I allowed unsupervised.

Posted Wed July 9, 2025 11:51am
Edited Wed July 9, 2025 11:51amReport post

Lolar1234

Member since
October 2023

14 posts

Thankyou for commenting,I have today received a call from SS,they are going to have a chat with me face to face so im hoping they can do something to help. I honestly dont know how u can do something like this but yet the restrictions are dropped for supervised contact. Yes it wasn't a contact offence but that isnt to say its ok. I can imagine it is very for u and that is exactly why I cant supervise,I didnt create this mess so im not going to put myself through that,thankfully my child doesn't wish to see him. Take care of yourself too remember.

Posted Wed July 9, 2025 5:40pmReport post

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1225 posts

Although it won't be a legal restriction it's highly unlikely that ss would allow unsupervised contact unless you are in agreement to that. Depending on your child's age their wishes of non contact would be taken into account if he took you through the court process. Hopefully you'll have this confirmed with ss when they come out to meet with you xxx

Posted Thu July 10, 2025 9:18amReport post

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