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Hi, we're at the stage where my husband can live at home with me and my 3 month old but I have to be responsible for all personal care and absolutely no unsupervised contact. This is easily manageable at present whilst I'm on maternity leave and my child is stationary. However we are in the process of future planning with a professional (appointed by SS) and I want to see what's realistic.
The professional is currently saying that although my OH has no restrictions on his SHPO, he can never step foot in school gates even when off the SOR when our child is 6. She says no headteacher in her professional carer has allowed this. So my OH couldn't do any school runs or even attend any parents evenings or school plays etc even with me present.
She's also said that we have to tell our childminder / nursery / school about my OH's offence even though the SS case will likely be closed by then.
She's asked us to set out what we see our future plan to look like but I don't want to say I'd be fine with aspects of unsupervised I.E. in the community or for car journeys if I'm going to be seen as not protective. Not do I want to make false promises and agree to plan that isn't feasible and results in my and my OH splitting because if I'm acting like a single parent then I may aswell be one, especially if it's going to be more hassle than it's worth.
Those at the end of their SS journey, how has the long term future planning looked for you? Any personal experiences would be super helpful! Thank you!
The professional is currently saying that although my OH has no restrictions on his SHPO, he can never step foot in school gates even when off the SOR when our child is 6. She says no headteacher in her professional carer has allowed this. So my OH couldn't do any school runs or even attend any parents evenings or school plays etc even with me present.
She's also said that we have to tell our childminder / nursery / school about my OH's offence even though the SS case will likely be closed by then.
She's asked us to set out what we see our future plan to look like but I don't want to say I'd be fine with aspects of unsupervised I.E. in the community or for car journeys if I'm going to be seen as not protective. Not do I want to make false promises and agree to plan that isn't feasible and results in my and my OH splitting because if I'm acting like a single parent then I may aswell be one, especially if it's going to be more hassle than it's worth.
Those at the end of their SS journey, how has the long term future planning looked for you? Any personal experiences would be super helpful! Thank you!
I'm in a different situation to you in that my son is the offender. About a year into his suspended sentence, my sons offender manager informed him that he had liaised with the childrens school and agreement had been given for him to go onto the school grounds for drop offs and pick ups. His SHPO restriction is no unsupervised contact with under 18's so he's never alone but with supervision is able to take them to school, pick them up from school and has attended his children's school plays, meetings with teachers and sports days.
Great thank you, I just needed some reassurance that it could be feasible so I'm not forced to put something on the long term safety plan that I don't agree with. My OH doesn't want our little girl performing in her school plays etc wondering why her dad never comes to watch xx
Hey I saw your post I wanted to say my husband is also allowed in the school as long as I am with him I spoke to the head teacher about him pick up my son and droping him to school she said that's fine she has no problem as he will have unsupervised contact next year March but at the moment some one has to go with him he can attend parents evening school fair as along as some one is with him .
We live together as a family now, full time with a safety plan. As you have learnt along the way, our experiences differ by postcode/appointed person lottery, even if the situation is the same. Our safety plan bans school run. It also bans any person under 18 coming to the house at all unless theirs parents' are informed. This is a plan curated with professionals just like yours is to be but doesn't mean you will be asked the same. It's beyond SHPO as there are no restrictions as such on his SHPO.
You just have to think, wouldn't you want to know if your child is visiting the house of a convicted sex offender, and not knowing what you do know, how would your reaction be!?
While daily school run is out of debate however watching a show or attending a parents evening isn't ruled out at this stage, this will depend on the school's safeguarding approach. Therefore it is essential you disclose the offence in order for them to make an informed decision. It's normal for that to be embedded in the family safety plan after all social workers will be out of your lives and SHPO won't include such restrictions however safety plan is until your child reaches the age of 18.
You just have to think, wouldn't you want to know if your child is visiting the house of a convicted sex offender, and not knowing what you do know, how would your reaction be!?
While daily school run is out of debate however watching a show or attending a parents evening isn't ruled out at this stage, this will depend on the school's safeguarding approach. Therefore it is essential you disclose the offence in order for them to make an informed decision. It's normal for that to be embedded in the family safety plan after all social workers will be out of your lives and SHPO won't include such restrictions however safety plan is until your child reaches the age of 18.
I am a deputy head. This is ridiculous.
We have parents in our school who are subject to the SOR but we have safeguarding procedures in place (as every school does) whereby it is never an issue. NO PARENT EVER is allowed in the school building and on their own with any child. (Maybe their own if they're poorly etc but then we would assume that parent knows if they can or cannot be with them!), we would never allow anyone without a dbs unsupervised with any children so it's not an issue if someone on the SOR comes into school really in principal.
If we know a parent is on the SOR we do have a quick chat and put a little risk assement in place but it never stops them doing anything. Just reiterates our own safeguarding measures in school to them.
There could be many people on the SOR picking up children every day that schools are unaware of. So we just make sure our safeguarding procedures for everyone covers this.
I am also in this forum as my hubby is subject to the SOR. Everyone is aware at my kids nursery and my school I work for are aware. Nursery have the exact same stance as me. Hubby can be there at pick up and stay and plays as they'd never leave any visitor unattended with children anyway! My school have just made me sign an agreement that hubby won't come into school to help me (he wouldn't anyway!!!).
so it is possible and do not let them scare you xx
Just remember, we walk past hundreds of offenders all the time in public places without ever knowing. Therefore everyone should adopt safe safeguarding processes just in case. Xx
We have parents in our school who are subject to the SOR but we have safeguarding procedures in place (as every school does) whereby it is never an issue. NO PARENT EVER is allowed in the school building and on their own with any child. (Maybe their own if they're poorly etc but then we would assume that parent knows if they can or cannot be with them!), we would never allow anyone without a dbs unsupervised with any children so it's not an issue if someone on the SOR comes into school really in principal.
If we know a parent is on the SOR we do have a quick chat and put a little risk assement in place but it never stops them doing anything. Just reiterates our own safeguarding measures in school to them.
There could be many people on the SOR picking up children every day that schools are unaware of. So we just make sure our safeguarding procedures for everyone covers this.
I am also in this forum as my hubby is subject to the SOR. Everyone is aware at my kids nursery and my school I work for are aware. Nursery have the exact same stance as me. Hubby can be there at pick up and stay and plays as they'd never leave any visitor unattended with children anyway! My school have just made me sign an agreement that hubby won't come into school to help me (he wouldn't anyway!!!).
so it is possible and do not let them scare you xx
Just remember, we walk past hundreds of offenders all the time in public places without ever knowing. Therefore everyone should adopt safe safeguarding processes just in case. Xx