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LilyRose84

Member since
October 2022

88 posts

Hi all.



it's been a while since I've been on here.
i was just wondering if anyone has ever been able to change their safety plans. We had one originally (2years ago) where my OH (now ex) wasn't allowed to see my two daughters which is understandable. They're his step children so it's not really been an issue.
he sees our son (aged 5) sometimes at my house, sometimes at my mother in laws house where he lives but probation have complained that when he walks him from my house to his moms it's unsupervised. Social services were never concerned about my son at the time due to his age and gender as the charges were relating to older girls. I understand they see him as a threat to children but just wondered if there could ever be any change in regards to his own son. Otherwise this will go on until his 18?




probation are a joke aswell, why not raise the issue there and then with my ex, rather than running and telling tales as such.



I thought the nightmare was behind but it just seems to go on and on.

Posted Thu July 10, 2025 2:56pmReport post

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1231 posts

Hi,

yeah it's possible to make changes to safety plans. We've not long started a gradual move to unsupervised with our daughter who is 4.
What I will say is ss may not be keen for the unsupervised to happen now that they know that the original safety plan hasn't been stuck to.
I can understand why the change has happened and in mine I've stated that it should be a living document, able to be changed as I deem appropriate depending on our family circumstances. Has he just started with probation? Sometimes while they build up a profile they are very cautious xxx

Posted Mon July 14, 2025 8:42pmReport post

LilyRose84

Member since
October 2022

88 posts

Thanks for the reply.



he's been with probation for nearly 18 months.
The plan is being stuck to as in the visits are supervised either by me or my mother in law. It's the walking journey round the corner they have an issue with, which has happened a handful of times. I do understand what they're saying and I've said it's an easy fix as I'll just organise that I'll do all pick up and collections.
I just wondered that if OH will be on the SOR until my son is 14 does that mean that everything will be supervised until then.
I might ask SS if it can be a working document so that things can be changed if needed.
I have reservations about SS from all the horror stories I've heard on here and from my own experience with work (in a school). I sometimes feel like I'm on trial when I'm also a victim in this horrible nightmare of a situation.

Posted Mon July 14, 2025 9:54pmReport post

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1231 posts

My partner is still on SOR and they've approved changes to the safety plan to include unsupervised at my discretion. It really is luck of the draw on sw xxx

Posted Tue July 15, 2025 12:01amReport post

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