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Dragonmama

Member since
November 2022

274 posts

SS are no longer in my life regarding children, they stepped down after I told them where to go. Their suggestion was no contact for my children but said if I wanted contact in the future to get a contact order.

A bit of a back story here, he's on probation until October, has SHPO and obviously SOR.
he can see his other children without any issues probation and police are ok with this. They were even ok for it with regards to my kids. However SS caused such an issue over the years that I'm confused.

other mother never had to deal with ss she was extremely lucky and could supervise again with permission of probation police etc.

he can go see friends with kids again probation and police ok with this provided supervised of course.

i no longer have ss in my children's lives so why on earth do i have to get a contact order? Probation and police are ok with me to supervise they always have been it's just SS which have been the problem, but again they are no longer in our lives.



what would you do? I think getting an order will prevent any future issues with ss but I just don't understand why I have to get in the first place.



again he can visit anyone with children provided they know what he's done and the kids are supervised



im so confused

Posted Mon July 14, 2025 7:50pm
Edited Mon July 14, 2025 7:50pmReport post

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1228 posts

Hi,

not sure if they've got things mixed up. A contact order (now called a child arrangement order) is for parents sorting custody.

This isn't an issue between you two so in my opinion this isn't the right course of action. Could probation or visor contact ss in support of your children having supervised contact? xxx

Posted Mon July 14, 2025 8:32pmReport post

Dragonmama

Member since
November 2022

274 posts

They did and were happy for contact to go ahead and didn't understand themselves why SS were against me supervising.



my understanding is that I can get a contact order and then SS don't have a leg to stand on when it comes to contact.

they did tell me that I can get a contact order and then SS can say to the judge they are against it, however I'm in the process of making a complaint about SS that I will obviously supply to the judge so what SS say becomes void.

both he and I agree that contact should happen it's just SS that have always disagreed. My DD is nearly 16 so basicly there's nothing SS can or will do for her. My DS is 5 and on the spectrum. And they always accused me of being groomed although they had no reason to believe this it was always speculation. We are not together but are friends they never liked this.

Posted Mon July 14, 2025 9:33pmReport post

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