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Dad in Limbo

Member since
June 2025

18 posts

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cm2zrylqzeyo

Wish this had been on the curriculum 6 or 7 years back ?? might have helped some of our young people...

Posted Tue July 15, 2025 8:15amReport post

Justdontknow

Member since
March 2024

34 posts

I think along side this, sex education needs to brought upto date.

In i.t classes, they need to be taught about online behaviour and actions.



I know one of the investigation officers on my sons case is doing 3 days per week to go into schools to teach them about the dangers not to themselves but about the law an the dangers to everyone else, but not every school wishes to take part. Which I dont think is right.... they should all be actively taking part.

Posted Tue July 15, 2025 11:35amReport post

Dad in Limbo

Member since
June 2025

18 posts

Totally agree, how are young adults supposed to fully understand the law.. l even think that social media needs no take responsibility and explain the laws in relation to using their apps.. but it is sadly an elephant in a room that no-one wants to address.. instead parents have to do their best to advise..

Posted Tue July 15, 2025 12:03pmReport post

BewilderedMum

Member since
May 2025

3 posts

dad in limbo / justdontknow

I agree with you both. Education is key to preventing more young men and their families going through this awful experience.

The dangers of 'free' online porn needs to be hammered home to boys and young men as this seems to be a common escalation pathway with IIOC bundled with 'normal' porn.

Rather than just expecting boys to fully comprehend the impacts on the victims of what they are watching, they need telling (repeatedly) how wrong (and illegal) it is to view IIOC... And they need to know that if they get caught the police will come to their home to arrest them and take all their devices and that they will face a conviction and feel shame because everyone will know, and they may feel like their life is over before it has even started.

The ease of accessibility of indecent content on popular social media sites is mind blowing - why has nothing been done about this yet? Society, it seems, is expecting young people to police themselves on it while they still believe in the myth of online anonymity.

Parents, as well as young people, need educating so they can have conversations with their young people about this. I was oblivious to all of this prior to the knock that has turned my world upside down. How I wish I'd known my son was watching porn from age 10/11 and had 'the conversation' with him sooner.

Posted Wed July 16, 2025 8:04pm
Edited Wed July 16, 2025 9:39pmReport post

Ajustcopingparent

Member since
August 2024

163 posts

I think a lot of kids don't realise they are still classed as children up to the age 18. People think IIOC and automatically assume the younger age bracket. I remember when my son was interviewed just turned 16 they just kept reiterating a child is someone under 18. Again this leads us to believe this relates to someone around his age.

Education for me is key. I never expected to be here with my son whose terrified of getting into trouble. The solicitor on day of arrest said normally they give him more information but they have just left us in limbo and it does feel like his life is over before it's began with first year at college ruined due to the stress. But nobody cares about the impact on these young lives.

Posted Wed July 16, 2025 11:34pmReport post

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