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SS are a law to themselves I'm afraid. I'm fed up with them and I'm in the PLO process. There are a number of key things to know about them:

They generally don't like you staying with your partner as they see this as you minimising the risk and not being protective which is stupid and many women on here I'm sure can share their stories of staying together as a family.

They don't like you defending your partner ie he isn't a risk, it was out of character etc

They accuse you of putting your loyalty to your OH above the safety of your child again which is stupid.

Feel free to message me with any questions you have, they have been in my life for the last year for an offence that happened two years ago xx

Where are you in the process? I'm guessing from the timeframe that forensics aren't back yet. My honest advice at this stage is to wait till you know more before making any decisions about the future. It's really not uncommon for the men involved to lie or minimise, even though rationally they must know it'll all come out anyway???? Also you can get disclosure with both the OIC and his solicitor, provided he agrees (and it's a red flag if he doesn't!). Though the OIC in my case is very cagey and tells no one anything anyway! I'd imagine these steps will help with SS as well - you can go to them and say that you want to be as informed as possible.



In the meantime there are lots of older threads which will help. When I came on here first I read through right through the forum going back years and it was very helpful.