Getting fed up with social services
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My husband was arrested before Christmas for uploaded 2 class C images. No evidence of contact or communication offenses. I have a 1 year old and so social services are involved.
When this first happened I was still in the deep pit of depression caused by my traumatic birth and it feels social services have kept that against me as I really just didn't want to know at the start with any of what he had been accused of and why it may have happened. I'd made my decision to stay with him because this just isn't him and that was it. The rest at the time was irrelevant. I was trying to stop myself spiraling and loosing my child because I wasn't well.
Since then we have obviously had a chat, but social services havent seemed to aknowledge this and think im not taking the alligations seriously. Social services have gone over every single senario possible with me including him sexually assaulting our daughter in the future as an example of the more extreme scenarios. And despite going over and over and over again what I'd do in every single senario possible and how I would safe guard my daughter. When I had my family plan with social connections social services concerns were to me odd. We had been over them all multipul times. I know I'm not the best at articulation but it's now frustrating me. It's starting to feel the only option they want from me is I leave him because I have been asked a few times why I've stayed with him. And this is out of character doesn't cut it.
When this first happened I was still in the deep pit of depression caused by my traumatic birth and it feels social services have kept that against me as I really just didn't want to know at the start with any of what he had been accused of and why it may have happened. I'd made my decision to stay with him because this just isn't him and that was it. The rest at the time was irrelevant. I was trying to stop myself spiraling and loosing my child because I wasn't well.
Since then we have obviously had a chat, but social services havent seemed to aknowledge this and think im not taking the alligations seriously. Social services have gone over every single senario possible with me including him sexually assaulting our daughter in the future as an example of the more extreme scenarios. And despite going over and over and over again what I'd do in every single senario possible and how I would safe guard my daughter. When I had my family plan with social connections social services concerns were to me odd. We had been over them all multipul times. I know I'm not the best at articulation but it's now frustrating me. It's starting to feel the only option they want from me is I leave him because I have been asked a few times why I've stayed with him. And this is out of character doesn't cut it.
SS are a law to themselves I'm afraid. I'm fed up with them and I'm in the PLO process. There are a number of key things to know about them:
They generally don't like you staying with your partner as they see this as you minimising the risk and not being protective which is stupid and many women on here I'm sure can share their stories of staying together as a family.
They don't like you defending your partner ie he isn't a risk, it was out of character etc
They accuse you of putting your loyalty to your OH above the safety of your child again which is stupid.
Feel free to message me with any questions you have, they have been in my life for the last year for an offence that happened two years ago xx
They generally don't like you staying with your partner as they see this as you minimising the risk and not being protective which is stupid and many women on here I'm sure can share their stories of staying together as a family.
They don't like you defending your partner ie he isn't a risk, it was out of character etc
They accuse you of putting your loyalty to your OH above the safety of your child again which is stupid.
Feel free to message me with any questions you have, they have been in my life for the last year for an offence that happened two years ago xx