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I have been on this forum since the dreaded knock in April. Some things have been very hard for me and I have really struggled with the negative. That's my journey and I am on it. On the plus side I have made a really good supportive friend. I would just like to say please be mindful of what u all write as some people are really struggling and just need support and not judgemental comments. We all have to deal with our choices and that is fine. No one has the right to judge anyone, my dad has taught me that! This forum has helped me and hindered me in equal measures. To anyone reading this if u need support reach out and message me. I have not been on the forum for the last couple of weeks to protect my own mental health. The struggle is real we are all on it so be kind and supportive to each other.
Well said. I completely agree.
Thank you for posting this. Always good to remember that although we might mean to be helpful there is no tone to a written comment and a good policy is to reread what you've written as if you were the recipient and struggling. Sometimes just a change of phrase is all it takes, I'm sure 99% of us only want to be helpful......
Well said dear Help.
You are so right and I feel exactly the same. We all have to work things out for ourselves and some of us choose to stay with our person whilst others choose not to. We all have to respect that. Like you I have made a friend, 3 actually, who have kept me going, given me courage and hope. And like you I am eternally grateful. Stay strong.
You are so right and I feel exactly the same. We all have to work things out for ourselves and some of us choose to stay with our person whilst others choose not to. We all have to respect that. Like you I have made a friend, 3 actually, who have kept me going, given me courage and hope. And like you I am eternally grateful. Stay strong.
Thank you to everyone that has replied. I almost deleted this post this morning but am glad I left it on now!
Whether you are stay or leave that is your decision alone and as stated needs to be respected.
I know its difficult as messages do not have a tone I think that when someone is at their most vulnerable people need to be supportive and not push their own views on people. As I said I have struggled massively with my decision but thats my struggle and I own it.
I wish nothing but happiness for everyone whatever their story and choice.
Whether you are stay or leave that is your decision alone and as stated needs to be respected.
I know its difficult as messages do not have a tone I think that when someone is at their most vulnerable people need to be supportive and not push their own views on people. As I said I have struggled massively with my decision but thats my struggle and I own it.
I wish nothing but happiness for everyone whatever their story and choice.
Well said Help,
You are doing fabulous and agree no one should be judged for whatever decision they make. Everyone has different circumstances and needs and we should all respect that. Keep strong you are doing amazing. I will add a little mantra I sent to one of my forum friends:
When going through a tough time; remind yourself that; #It won't last forever. #You will overcome it. #You will become a better person. #You will live a better life.
Lots of love and strength Katie xxxx
You are doing fabulous and agree no one should be judged for whatever decision they make. Everyone has different circumstances and needs and we should all respect that. Keep strong you are doing amazing. I will add a little mantra I sent to one of my forum friends:
When going through a tough time; remind yourself that; #It won't last forever. #You will overcome it. #You will become a better person. #You will live a better life.
Lots of love and strength Katie xxxx
I completely agree. I send love to all of us here who are struggling.
I have also found many posts and comments extremely triggering along the way, and when I am feeling at my lowest, they have had a massive impact on my mental health. And like you I have had to take a step back from looking at the forum in these times.
However, like you I have also met a couple of the most wonderful ladies, who give me permission to just be me, and listen without judgement. Sometimes I say the friendships I have made are more beneficial than the councelling I recieve.
I often say, my decisions (to stay, support, understand and try to move forward as a better human) are mine. I understand others make different choices, whether through choice, awful circumstances or necessity, and these ladies and gents also get my support. We are all in this together, there is no right or wrong way to navigate it, but hopefully we will all emerge (however long that takes) with our heads held high, that we just have done our best in the shittiest of circumstances.
Sending love to all of you xx
I have also found many posts and comments extremely triggering along the way, and when I am feeling at my lowest, they have had a massive impact on my mental health. And like you I have had to take a step back from looking at the forum in these times.
However, like you I have also met a couple of the most wonderful ladies, who give me permission to just be me, and listen without judgement. Sometimes I say the friendships I have made are more beneficial than the councelling I recieve.
I often say, my decisions (to stay, support, understand and try to move forward as a better human) are mine. I understand others make different choices, whether through choice, awful circumstances or necessity, and these ladies and gents also get my support. We are all in this together, there is no right or wrong way to navigate it, but hopefully we will all emerge (however long that takes) with our heads held high, that we just have done our best in the shittiest of circumstances.
Sending love to all of you xx
I have also been on a journey- twice. I reserve the right to say how I feel too. I deserve the right to call out men who have sexually offended online. No matter how I love, and feel about my ex, my position will be to ALWAYS protect children. the facts remain the same and is why your person and mine has been arrested/convicted of sexual abuse of CHILDREN.
Much as I sympathise with your situation LR, that post is extremely unhelpful to someone who is desperately hurting at the moment. This is exactly the toxic comments that cause people who need help and support to stay away from the forum. The majority of people have supported you through this process and your comments can be destructive to someone who needs help and support and who is currently navigating their own journey. You have no idea of what Help is going through and your ignorant comment could easily contribute to further distress.
Katie
Katie
I think we all have the right to reply but most of us choose whether our experiences and opinions are appropriate for the recipient. So if for example I'm reading a thread from someone who is not supporting their person and I feel that perhaps I might have made a different decision, I choose not to post because I respect that person and their choice.
There is, or should be, space for everyone here.
There is, or should be, space for everyone here.
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