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Dreaming

Member since
February 2024

25 posts

I am here because of my son, we are now after court and at court judge said no restrictions apart from on the Internet.

We were meant to be going on a family holiday but obviously didn't want to book as we was unsure of what the outcome would be at court.

My son has told probation that we might be going on this holiday and has asked if that would be OK. Since he has asked this probation have been awful to him and have said no he can't and have said this is a red flag to them in him asking. His nephews would be on this holiday but we would be staying in different accommodation. Is this right he is on the register for 5 years so I do understand that there are things to consider. I just feel so confused with everything, no one really explains everything after and obviously he don't want to get into any trouble.

Please any advice would be great

Thankyou

Posted Sun July 20, 2025 9:39amReport post

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

987 posts

Hi Dreaming, I'm sorry to know your son is struggling with his probation officer. I'm also here because of my son and we too have had to change some of our plans for holidays and trips away. Generally my son has found his probation officer and offender manager to be helpful, but we have had holiday plans turned down if the Terms and Conditions of the place we were hoping to stay in have said they do not knowing allow SO's to stay on their premises. This applies to family type holidays at places like center parcs and holiday camps. We now make sure we thoroughly check the T's&C's before making any plans.

I don't understand why probation thought that checking with them was a 'Red flag'. My son checks most of his new activities and plans with probation who if unsure refer it to his offender.

Posted Sun July 20, 2025 6:30pmReport post

Dreaming

Member since
February 2024

25 posts

Thankyou for your reply Ocean. Yes I can understand that and we will have to look into it more.

We have decided to leave a holiday for this year maybe next year and will look at the t & c more throughly.

Yes the probation officer just don't seem to be very helpful and seems to not give great advice, even with jobs and other things. I suppose this is just the way it will be for a while.

Thankyou for your advice.

Posted Mon July 21, 2025 8:52amReport post

Inturmoil1974

Member since
November 2022

406 posts

We were extremely lucky with the support from probation and offending manager and thankfully register and supervision was only 1 year in that time we holidayed in UK and booked and air b n b that way there was no hassle

Posted Mon July 21, 2025 11:48amReport post

Dreaming

Member since
February 2024

25 posts

Thankyou for replying.

Yes I can understand that our plans will now change and an air b and b is a good idea.

Can anyone advise on what to do wlabout probation so my son has seen her every week this week she came to the house and was constantly going on at him about holidays and that he need to forget it for 5 years and even though he has not mentioned anything about a holiday as we now know that is unlikely he would be able to go.

She gives no and just seems to enjoy making him feel totally rubbish.I understand that thisbhis punishment I suppose but he has suffered with his mental health and every week she just makes things worse.

Any advice welcome, is this normal I just don't know but I am very worried about my sons mental health at the moment

Thankyou

Posted Tue July 29, 2025 8:44pmReport post

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