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Blessings

Member since
June 2025

8 posts

I'm supporting my person, but I've started to move on and distance myself from them - which has included moving out. I told myself I needed to do that or I'd break down and be no help to anyone. Was that just an excuse? I don't know.

Since moving out I feel lighter. It's sort of relief, like a weight's being taken off me gradually, and just contentment sometimes. But I also feel guilty for feeling that way. I feel like they are suffering so why should I be able to spend days at a time not thinking about CPS, possible sentencing outcomes, etc.

And maybe not just those things, but also the whole relationship which was often a stressful place to live. I feel like I've been let out of prison. And I feel like I don't deserve it. Does that make any sense at all?

Posted Tue July 22, 2025 10:10amReport post

Lrf

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July 2024

118 posts

You shouldn't feel guilty at all blessings, the reason you SHOULD be able to spend days at a time not thinking about all those horrible things is because you did not commit a crime, you have no reason to spend your time dreading all those things a because you're an innocent party in this, and it was pushed upon you by someone else's actions. I guess what I would think is that he did not feel guilty enough about what this would do to your life to not commit a crime. You have done nothing wrong and you are allowed to feel lighter and allowed to not feel terrible for something you haven't done. Take the time to think about whether the way you feel now is how you want to spend the next few years or if you want to sit in the misery with him, no judgement it's totally up to you, but I quite often here women on here disregard their own need for happiness to 'help' someone who turned their lives upside down without much care for the consequences for the woman.

Posted Tue July 22, 2025 2:30pmReport post

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