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OK, so some of you might remember me ,my son reoffended at 19 ( first time 16 ) and went to jail,he got nearly 5 years, so obviously did 2 and a half .I suffered terribly ,I had windows put through at my hose ,woke up to someone trying to set fire to my house ,car tyres slashed ,chased by people in balaclavas ,so many different things that I was advised by the police to leave my home ,and I became homeless ,staying here there and everywhere ,my mental health took a toll on me ,and I even tried to hang myself from a tree and my mother died during this time .HOWEVER 2 and a half years on I'm stronger than I've ever been .I live In my mothers old house ,have completely renovated it on my own and live a quiet life .I know am in regular contact with my son who is only 21 and have changed my opinion ,that I'd never let him live with me again because if I don't support him ,who the hell will ? ?
HOWEVER ,my mums house was also raided as my son lived there alot and her neighbours all knew what had happened .I've been at this house for nearly a year and a half and just live a quiet life .
A few months ago it was coming up to the year anniversary of my mother's death and I wanted to invite the neighbours foe a drink to mark the occasion. I wax at one of their houses to ask who went to the funeral and I asked this neighbour .She asked when my son was out and where he was going. I explained that eve though I had said I'd never let him live with me again after losing my own mother I had changed my mind and he was coming to live with me .
I then got a text message saying in light of what I'd told them they would never set foot in my house again.
I didn't reply not even a thumbs up ,I respect people's opinion ,I get it .
3 months later banging on my door demanding I take one of my ring doorbells down ,( I have 3 covering my property as I have ptad ) and I explained that only I have access to it ,my son would be recalled if I shared the access and it covers my windows at the front of my house and my car .they then asked if my son was coming back and when I said yes they said well he isn't, gave me loads of verbals .I was so upset my friend knocked on their door and it kicked off a bit and police were called
The police told me they'd rang them complaining about my son and police had explained that they would be monitoring my son .
The next day they put a camera in their window which is purely pointing at my house its now bee n there over a month .
Last week I was getting out of my car a friend was with me and the neighbour screaned at me calling me a fing tramp .today she was screaming my son was a paedophile at me in the street and to take my camera down. I have told the police and they are doing nothing .its affecting my mental a d physical health ,I'm not sleeping ,waking up woth flashbacks ,covered in a stress rash .I feel bullied ,what do I do ,I'm scared I'm going to become suicidal if it doesn't stop
HOWEVER ,my mums house was also raided as my son lived there alot and her neighbours all knew what had happened .I've been at this house for nearly a year and a half and just live a quiet life .
A few months ago it was coming up to the year anniversary of my mother's death and I wanted to invite the neighbours foe a drink to mark the occasion. I wax at one of their houses to ask who went to the funeral and I asked this neighbour .She asked when my son was out and where he was going. I explained that eve though I had said I'd never let him live with me again after losing my own mother I had changed my mind and he was coming to live with me .
I then got a text message saying in light of what I'd told them they would never set foot in my house again.
I didn't reply not even a thumbs up ,I respect people's opinion ,I get it .
3 months later banging on my door demanding I take one of my ring doorbells down ,( I have 3 covering my property as I have ptad ) and I explained that only I have access to it ,my son would be recalled if I shared the access and it covers my windows at the front of my house and my car .they then asked if my son was coming back and when I said yes they said well he isn't, gave me loads of verbals .I was so upset my friend knocked on their door and it kicked off a bit and police were called
The police told me they'd rang them complaining about my son and police had explained that they would be monitoring my son .
The next day they put a camera in their window which is purely pointing at my house its now bee n there over a month .
Last week I was getting out of my car a friend was with me and the neighbour screaned at me calling me a fing tramp .today she was screaming my son was a paedophile at me in the street and to take my camera down. I have told the police and they are doing nothing .its affecting my mental a d physical health ,I'm not sleeping ,waking up woth flashbacks ,covered in a stress rash .I feel bullied ,what do I do ,I'm scared I'm going to become suicidal if it doesn't stop
Typo ptsd
Hi,
are you in a position to sell the house and move a reasonable distance away? I know that you shouldn't have to but in your position I think I would for the sake of your mental health xxx
are you in a position to sell the house and move a reasonable distance away? I know that you shouldn't have to but in your position I think I would for the sake of your mental health xxx
I really don't want to move x
It sounds awful, and I send you peace and calm.
I know its not what u want to have to do, but moving is perhaps something to consider deeply. Can you write out the pros and cons? How would your life be better by staying, and/or by moving, in the long term?
May clarity come...
Hugs...
I know its not what u want to have to do, but moving is perhaps something to consider deeply. Can you write out the pros and cons? How would your life be better by staying, and/or by moving, in the long term?
May clarity come...
Hugs...
Also, maybe call the helpline and talk it through with the advisor?
Oh how my heart goes out to you. What a terrible time you've been through. Of course you want to support your son, I'd do exactly the same for mine.
I feel so angry on your behalf. How dare your neighbour treat you like this, you've done nothing wrong and have every right to live safely in your own home.
If I was you, I'd be leaving your cameras where they are and getting as much evidence as I can of the neighbours behaviour and presenting that to the police, they won't be able to ignore evidence. Your neighbour probably knows this which is why they want you to remove it. Try to ignore their camera, you're not the one behaving badly so they only evidence on there will be their own intimidation and bullying behaviour.
Your wellbeing needs to come first so if you haven't already done so it might be worth reaching out to your GP for some additional support and I'm here for you if ever you want to message me. Sending you and your son my best wishes along with strength and peace.
I feel so angry on your behalf. How dare your neighbour treat you like this, you've done nothing wrong and have every right to live safely in your own home.
If I was you, I'd be leaving your cameras where they are and getting as much evidence as I can of the neighbours behaviour and presenting that to the police, they won't be able to ignore evidence. Your neighbour probably knows this which is why they want you to remove it. Try to ignore their camera, you're not the one behaving badly so they only evidence on there will be their own intimidation and bullying behaviour.
Your wellbeing needs to come first so if you haven't already done so it might be worth reaching out to your GP for some additional support and I'm here for you if ever you want to message me. Sending you and your son my best wishes along with strength and peace.
You shouldn’t be made to feel unsafe in your own home.
As others have said keep your cameras up, if you feel so inclined put more up to ensure full coverage of your property. Make sure the footage of any incidences of harassment are downloaded and stored.
Keep a diary of any incidents involving this neighbour or others.
Report the incidents to the police each and every time, they might not do anything that’s their decision but at least you will have a record to say that they ignored the problem should things escalate.
If you have the funds to do so you could also consider civil legal action.
As others have said keep your cameras up, if you feel so inclined put more up to ensure full coverage of your property. Make sure the footage of any incidences of harassment are downloaded and stored.
Keep a diary of any incidents involving this neighbour or others.
Report the incidents to the police each and every time, they might not do anything that’s their decision but at least you will have a record to say that they ignored the problem should things escalate.
If you have the funds to do so you could also consider civil legal action.
This is truly shocking behaviour from your neighbours and I agree with others you should not be forced out of your own home. I would suggest making a complaint to the police to the effect of they are aware of your vulnerability and they should at least be offering you an emergency alarm system which would trigger an urgent response. I hope you get some peace at long last, you certainly deserve it after what you have been through. Sending peace and strength to you and your son. Xxxx