Bit of a specific question - keen for insights
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Is it a terrible idea for me as the realtive of an sex offender to date a policeman?
For context, my brother is the offender (online offences but on the more seious end). He is currently in prison not in the area I live and was also arrested in another area. I have contact with him but am still working out what our relationship will be when he leaves.
I've recently started dating and am getting on really well with someone in the police local to me. Would he be barred from having a relationship with me because of his job? It's early days right now so I don't really feel comfortable telling him my private family business but also don't want to continue and get more invested if it can never go anywhere.
I'm lucky that my brother's actions have yet to have much of a direct affect on my life, but this is an area (dating in general really) where I can forsee issues and it makes me angry.
For context, my brother is the offender (online offences but on the more seious end). He is currently in prison not in the area I live and was also arrested in another area. I have contact with him but am still working out what our relationship will be when he leaves.
I've recently started dating and am getting on really well with someone in the police local to me. Would he be barred from having a relationship with me because of his job? It's early days right now so I don't really feel comfortable telling him my private family business but also don't want to continue and get more invested if it can never go anywhere.
I'm lucky that my brother's actions have yet to have much of a direct affect on my life, but this is an area (dating in general really) where I can forsee issues and it makes me angry.
Hi ,
I don't have any experience at all in what you are asking. But I would say no . I don't see why it would effect his job as a police man . You have done nothing wrong .
I work with children in my job and my husband was the person who was convicted . Serious online possession .
my job hasn't been effected and thankfully my case isn't public so they aren't even aware of what has happened
I don't have any experience at all in what you are asking. But I would say no . I don't see why it would effect his job as a police man . You have done nothing wrong .
I work with children in my job and my husband was the person who was convicted . Serious online possession .
my job hasn't been effected and thankfully my case isn't public so they aren't even aware of what has happened
I also work with children and it hasn't affected my job at all. But I'm just aware that the police go through a very high level of vetting when they go in for promotion. More than just an enhanced DBS. I completely understand if they wouldn't want to be put under extra scrutiny if it can be avoided. But maybe I am just catastrophising.
It's your brother it's not you . You don't even live with your brother so I honestly don't see it even coming up in any checks ??
It will probably come up on the deeper level of checks they have. I went for a job based in a police station (not a police job) a long time ago and my brother in law's conviction from many years ago for something very petty had to be disclosed. However, it wouldn't stop the promotion etc actually happening unless it's a job for like MI5 or something and even then hopefully not
He will already know. He probably checks out anyone he dates!!!!
I doubt he would already know as he'd get sacked for misuse of the systems. Where I work it's all tracked
I agree - he would be dismissed for accessing certain databases for personal use. All tracked where I work as well
I don't think being in a relationship with a police officer as the relative of an offender would be an issue, after all something like a quarter of the adult population has a criminal record for something or other.
The only caveat to this would be if the police officer was professional involved with the offender ie involved in the initial investigation, MOSOVO team.
The only caveat to this would be if the police officer was professional involved with the offender ie involved in the initial investigation, MOSOVO team.
I don't think being in a relationship with a police officer as the relative of an offender would be an issue, after all something like a quarter of the adult population has a criminal record for something or other.
The only caveat to this would be if the police officer was professional involved with the offender ie involved in the initial investigation, MOSOVO team.
The only caveat to this would be if the police officer was professional involved with the offender ie involved in the initial investigation, MOSOVO team.