Things getting better but still no answers.
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Well we are now about 5 months in since the know.
On a positive note we have had changes to bail conditions which means OH can be at home and have unsupervised contact with our child. This has helped take a huge amount of pressure of me and has stopped me completely having a breakdown.
Social services have also now dropped our case so no more involvement from them.
This has made life easier for sure, the challenge now is while life has kind of gone back to "normal" there is still this cloud looming over us with devices not even being looked at yet and no timescale at all an end to any of this.
Its hard to plan or carry on with the unknown and not sure how to keep going sometimes.
On a positive note we have had changes to bail conditions which means OH can be at home and have unsupervised contact with our child. This has helped take a huge amount of pressure of me and has stopped me completely having a breakdown.
Social services have also now dropped our case so no more involvement from them.
This has made life easier for sure, the challenge now is while life has kind of gone back to "normal" there is still this cloud looming over us with devices not even being looked at yet and no timescale at all an end to any of this.
Its hard to plan or carry on with the unknown and not sure how to keep going sometimes.
We were similar. My son had bail conditions up until new year then they were dropped so left waiting for devices. It definitely took pressure off because we were second guessing everything and making sure didn't unknowingly breach the conditions. Might sound silly some but when never been in such a position we had no clue about bail.
Its just past a year since the knock, my sons now 17. Is first year of college ruined because he can't concentrate. Like you its that black cloud hanging over us until devices checked. The wanting the contact from OIC but also not whilst you have the bubble of almost normal.
Each week I wonder if we will hear anything. We are away this week and nice my son just enjoying himself. But its still on my mind.
Its just past a year since the knock, my sons now 17. Is first year of college ruined because he can't concentrate. Like you its that black cloud hanging over us until devices checked. The wanting the contact from OIC but also not whilst you have the bubble of almost normal.
Each week I wonder if we will hear anything. We are away this week and nice my son just enjoying himself. But its still on my mind.
Hello the waiting is the worst part :/ we are at the 25 month mark now, was Bailed for 10 month then RUI for the rest, all we get is a letter from his solicitor to say it's with the CPS etc I know it can bounce back and forth from them to the police. SS signed me and the kids off after 3 months and haven't heard a single thing from them either..
you try to live a normal life but there's nothing normal about it. ):
you try to live a normal life but there's nothing normal about it. ):
Its being "normal" but life still on hault. We want to book a holiday next May but almost dont slant to spend the money as no idea what will happen.
I think we just need to live in the now but it is hard. Thanks both for sharing.
I think we just need to live in the now but it is hard. Thanks both for sharing.
I feel you we've been the same but for over 2 years be our luck we haven't booked anything for so long when we finally do we won't be able to go /: but yes living in the now is the only way and get through each day is a blessing as this journey takes its toll mentally & emotionally /: inbox is always open if you need to speak to someone x
I feel you, I want my husband to ask if bail terms can change if the bail is extended again at the 9 month mark that an amendment could be made so he can have unsupervised contact with our daughter. It would mean I can at least go home in my own bed and use my own shower which I miss!! (He lives our home) I try to live every day not trying to think about all of this or I just cry then I get angry and cry some more. I don't know what the future holds or how long thing will go on for. My daughters 1 and I lay here thinking where will she go to school? Will it be in the town I'm in currently or in the village where she should be being brought up but isn't currently. And that stresses me out. I need a holiday but I always worry they'll call him back. We haven't been on our first holiday as a 3 yet and that upsets me so much and it will be expensive if we do with the current terms as he will need his own separate room.
They can only bail for so long my OH was 10 month then he got put on RUI which has no conditions or restrictions which is ideal but then your still waiting around for answers and a way forward /: my Social worker allowed my partner to take the kids out in public places alone as it really effected them and they said he didnt pose a risk that was when he was on bail x