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Jam Doughnuts

Member since
May 2025

2 posts

Hi, my Son was arrested in March 2024 for engaging with a child via WhatsApp. He was on Bail which has been extended by the Police and the Magistrates Court. His Solicitor has now told him he is on Bail with no return date. My Son just burys his head in the sand but what does this mean, have they found more things ? I am struggling to cope most days and it consumes me.

Posted Wed August 6, 2025 4:07pmReport post

26a20

Member since
December 2024

167 posts

I would ask the solicitor to clarify this as as far as I understand pre charge bail must have a date at which it needs to be reviewed and an application made for an extension, usually every three months. Bail can continue to be extended indefinitely however is still needs to be reviewed and authorised by the police for the first few bail extensions and then by a magistrate for any subsequent extensions.

I wonder if the solicitor means it has been changed to release under investigation as this has no time limit and is usually what seems to happen after a year as the police don't want to be going to court every 3 months to get a bail extension.

Posted Wed August 6, 2025 7:16pmReport post

Jam Doughnuts

Member since
May 2025

2 posts

26a20

Yes maybe that's what the solicitor means. My Son has just closed himself off and if I mention anything to do with it he tells me to leave him alone

Posted Wed August 6, 2025 8:18pmReport post

26a20

Member since
December 2024

167 posts

It's difficult and frustrating when the person refuses to acknowledge what is going on, my partner was the same for the first month, it was infuriating. I can't imagine him ignoring it for over a year in the hope it would just go away.

If it's been changed to release under investigation the investigation is likely still ongoing, waiting on forensics etc and the police just don't want the hassle of going back and forth to magistrates every few months.

Posted Thu August 7, 2025 10:10am
Edited Thu August 7, 2025 5:53pmReport post

Stan cat

Member since
October 2024

97 posts

My OH has now been out on Been Out on bailfor the last 20 months it just means that the police haven't had time to look at his devices and to make a decision on how to Proceed and then the meantime the families are left struggling and unsure how to proceed. It's almost as if the families and loved ones are being sentenced to. Hopefully it won't be much longer before you get an answer. Take care of yourself xx

Posted Thu August 7, 2025 3:51pmReport post

Ajustcopingparent

Member since
August 2024

172 posts

Hi

I can relate to some of this with my 17yr (then 16 and incident when 15) We don't know what exactly he's accused of and when we try to talk to him he just breaks down and says he doesn't know. I don't know if he's genuinely avoiding it or if he actually doesn't know. All he will say is following some emails I found in relation to snapchat where he's reported stuff (one accepted as a violation) he says he thinks it was IIOC but he reported it. He admitted to clicking on a link to a game or music website and that had IIOC but he came off it.

We are currently away but last few days my anxiety as been through the roof. Its the not knowing how long this will go on for, wanting it sorted before he turns 18 because I worry for his mental health. Its a year since the knock and last update was devices had been outsourced so shouldn't be long.

I just think one the police don't realise on the impact on families and secondly although our OIC has been quite good they don't realise the lasting affect on someone who is still a child themselves.

Posted Thu August 7, 2025 4:26pmReport post

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