Seen a solicitor today regarding PLO process all happening because my husband been put high risk by probation....social came earlier today and told me they have no concerns and not to worry and the PLO is for funding for an assessment for my husband and nothing else ....but the solicitor mentioned in a very worse case of an external assessment still comes out high risk and my capacity is never passed they can remove my child?? He's only ever with us when supervised so surely this will not be the case as all my reports are very positive and they've told me I need not worry and no concerns with me??
anyone had an experience where their partners external assessment has bought down their risk and made them able to move forward??
my protective assessment has been left open but I currently can't supervise but they have referred to it as a "running document" while they work with me, my old social worker suggested I supervised but was shot down by his supervisor....should I be worried or is this unlikely?? I've not stop crying and I can't barely function, I want my family together but when I say that they twist it on me, I feel like life is too much and not wanting to be here these days I want to run away
my son and husband are my world please can someone help me I really need positivity right now :(
there must be a way.....
anyone had an experience where their partners external assessment has bought down their risk and made them able to move forward??
my protective assessment has been left open but I currently can't supervise but they have referred to it as a "running document" while they work with me, my old social worker suggested I supervised but was shot down by his supervisor....should I be worried or is this unlikely?? I've not stop crying and I can't barely function, I want my family together but when I say that they twist it on me, I feel like life is too much and not wanting to be here these days I want to run away
my son and husband are my world please can someone help me I really need positivity right now :(
there must be a way.....
Yeah I was in your situation in December 2024, literally a few days before Christmas being given the PLO letter and scary conversations with solicitors. All for my first born due beginning of the year. All the scaremongering made me genuinely feel like my baby was going to be taken at birth. My SW didn't even provide any reassurance like yours has.
Now my baby is 4 months old and hopefully at the next PLO meeting it's being closed (SW has pretty much said it will be). My husband was assessed independently at low risk and I'm able to protect. All the worry was completely unnecessary and if I chose to have anymore children, our plan in place now will allow that to be as smooth as possible with no more SS involvement.
Take one day at a time, I promise it gets better and it will be worth it in the end x
Now my baby is 4 months old and hopefully at the next PLO meeting it's being closed (SW has pretty much said it will be). My husband was assessed independently at low risk and I'm able to protect. All the worry was completely unnecessary and if I chose to have anymore children, our plan in place now will allow that to be as smooth as possible with no more SS involvement.
Take one day at a time, I promise it gets better and it will be worth it in the end x
I'd also say, my husband's conviction was thousands of images across all categories. I genuinely didn't think low risk would happen so I'd convinced myself we'd either have to split or the baby would be taken from me.
MOSOVO still have my husband at medium risk despite the psychological assessment stating low risk. They literally said in our last core group "we have no concerns but because he's now living with a child, our risk tool makes his 'opportunity to offend' high so we can't make him low risk". SS have said they won't be taking this into consideration, just the psychological assessment.
MOSOVO still have my husband at medium risk despite the psychological assessment stating low risk. They literally said in our last core group "we have no concerns but because he's now living with a child, our risk tool makes his 'opportunity to offend' high so we can't make him low risk". SS have said they won't be taking this into consideration, just the psychological assessment.
We have chatted in another thread. They have done exactly the same to me.... escalated to PLO to fund assessments because they wouldn't fund anything at CPP level. It was said during my PLO meeting that potentially taking my nearly 9 year old into care isn't what they want. Can you really imagine a judge thinking it's ok to remove a child from their mother who is old enough to understand what is happening and it would scar her for life!
It took me a while to realise aswell that it's management pulling the strings- usually head of service. My SW has said from the very beginning that our case can be handled as CIN and management have shot her down.
SS work in a culture of defensiveness, risk adverse and will never admit they have got things wrong.
I've just decided they are not human beings
xx
It took me a while to realise aswell that it's management pulling the strings- usually head of service. My SW has said from the very beginning that our case can be handled as CIN and management have shot her down.
SS work in a culture of defensiveness, risk adverse and will never admit they have got things wrong.
I've just decided they are not human beings
xx
Thankyou both, sorry if my comments seem repetitive , lolamoo if you don't mind me asking do you know what sort of things he was asked in this assessment? Probation said my husband was medium risk and bumped him to high for a comment he never said...there's been no mention of assessments on me though they don't seem to want to do that with me and just work on my capacity to protect and update it? Hoping that's the good thing that they aren't pushing one for me, I can't supervise right now and now been told they won't do anything now until after his external assessment...also was it a long wait time? Sorry for all the questions xx
thanks again upset mother for your comments the other day. Think it's just set me off again when the solicitor mentioned what will I do if his external assessment comes out high risk still...I'm hoping that's not the case though, he's really trying and these are psychologists so hopefully they will see the good in him
i hadnt Eaten until about 10pm this evening, my appetite has been a struggle and I feel sick regularly , it's all a bit much
do hope things get better for us xx
thanks again upset mother for your comments the other day. Think it's just set me off again when the solicitor mentioned what will I do if his external assessment comes out high risk still...I'm hoping that's not the case though, he's really trying and these are psychologists so hopefully they will see the good in him
i hadnt Eaten until about 10pm this evening, my appetite has been a struggle and I feel sick regularly , it's all a bit much
do hope things get better for us xx
Also yes it's frustrating that the sw doesn't seem to influence management when it's them that see you and your child! Apprently in the PLO meeting I'll finally get to chat to her and offer my reassurance that my baby comes first....
my old sw put his recommendation of me supervising and no social service intervention and then the supervisor said no I'm not allowed, it was like dangling a carrot in front of me then snatching it away how it was written positively then "no due to her bond with her husband"....wow is all I can say xx
my old sw put his recommendation of me supervising and no social service intervention and then the supervisor said no I'm not allowed, it was like dangling a carrot in front of me then snatching it away how it was written positively then "no due to her bond with her husband"....wow is all I can say xx
This is why I decided to go through the complaints process, I think it's the only way they are going to get their wrists slapped. I need someone to look at my whole case objectively. The council refused to investigate my complaint at stage 3 which says a lot. A stage 3 complaint involves an independent panel looking at your complaint and they probably didnt want the scrutiny xx
I'm really scared, after my husband was first arrested his probation checked an old phone of his and said he could destroy it if need be, he did that and now he's just been arrested for doing it (at 3am this morning ) and taken to a station an hour away....will he be put straight in prison!? I'm screaming the house down im so afraid , all he's doing it trying to make his life right, this is killing us....I've heard nothing, it doesn't feel real
I'm really scared, after my husband was first arrested his probation checked an old phone of his and said he could destroy it if need be, he did that and now he's just been arrested for doing it (at 3am this morning ) and taken to a station an hour away....will he be put straight in prison!? I'm screaming the house down im so afraid , all he's doing it trying to make his life right, this is killing us....I've heard nothing, it doesn't feel real