The dreaded year anniversary
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So tomorrow is one year since the knock and the night our lives changed forever.
The investigation is over, the case is being prepared to be sent to CPS, first it has to go to the quality assurance team, hopefully by the end of September apparently. Anyone else had their case sent here first?
Why do these things take so long? - We are all so over this process and it feels never ending. The police asked the magistrate to extend the bail to 18 months, which will take us up to next February... hopefully it will be less than this.
At the last bail, the OIC told my husband that the case was with CPS already, but this was a lie. We found this out when he emailed for an update last week and she said the case was being prepared and sent to the QA team. Why do they lie and tell you things that give you false hope?
Hopefully this nightmare will be over soon and we can move on with our lives. Tomorrow will come and go, hopefully it won't trigger us too much.
Sending hugs to all of you in this awful limbo hell x
The investigation is over, the case is being prepared to be sent to CPS, first it has to go to the quality assurance team, hopefully by the end of September apparently. Anyone else had their case sent here first?
Why do these things take so long? - We are all so over this process and it feels never ending. The police asked the magistrate to extend the bail to 18 months, which will take us up to next February... hopefully it will be less than this.
At the last bail, the OIC told my husband that the case was with CPS already, but this was a lie. We found this out when he emailed for an update last week and she said the case was being prepared and sent to the QA team. Why do they lie and tell you things that give you false hope?
Hopefully this nightmare will be over soon and we can move on with our lives. Tomorrow will come and go, hopefully it won't trigger us too much.
Sending hugs to all of you in this awful limbo hell x
The amount of time that it takes is just awful, from the first door knock to the trial of the person in my case took 2 years and 7 months so it has been one hell of an ordeal.
I really hope yours happens alot sooner and wish you all the best
I really hope yours happens alot sooner and wish you all the best
Hope you're getting through the day. It feels like such a big milestone but in some ways I found it helped as firstly, things still felt dreadful but not nearly as dreadful as that day a year before, and secondly, from now on there was no more 'this time last year we were happy and living in blissful ignorance' as this time last year we had started on our journey so blissful ignorance was a thing of the past. I found those happy memories so hard to deal with as it seemed like salt in the wound but now i can look at photos from that time with less upset. I hope you can find a tiny shred of comfort too once you get through today xx
Thank you ladies - it hasn't been as bad as I thought, had a brief moment of reflection earlier, but just got on with my day. Like you say, when I think back to how I was in the first weeks after the knock, I've come a long way and in some ways I'm proud of the strength I've found throughout this awful journey.
I do hope anyone who is at the beginning can take comfort knowing that it does get easier with time. Here's hoping by this time next year, we are out the other side of it.
Going to grab an early night to get the rest of today out the way and hope to wake up more positive tomorrow!
I do hope anyone who is at the beginning can take comfort knowing that it does get easier with time. Here's hoping by this time next year, we are out the other side of it.
Going to grab an early night to get the rest of today out the way and hope to wake up more positive tomorrow!
For my 17yr old son we are just over a year since the knock and still waiting devices checking. I've found these past few weeks my anxiety as increased and not sleeping on a night. I want it to move forward but also scared of the unknown. I don't want them to find anything but then if that happens will we then be wondering constantly exactly what he was supposed to have done.
They really don't get the impact all this as with the waiting.
They really don't get the impact all this as with the waiting.
Sorry your going through this but there will always be light at the end of the tunnel.
my OH was arrested back in July 2023 and we still are waiting. No charges as of yet, he's been on RUI for so long now /:
Waiting is the worst & the unknown. Hope you are ok x
my OH was arrested back in July 2023 and we still are waiting. No charges as of yet, he's been on RUI for so long now /:
Waiting is the worst & the unknown. Hope you are ok x