Son starting preschool (no longer on CIN plan)
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Hello,
Social services closed to us in September 2024 after my partner's criminal case closed and he was issued with a caution and 2 years on the SOR. The kids were on a CIN plan.
My middle child is due to start preschool in September and I'm wondering if they'll know he was open to SS previously and, more importantly, the reasoning for it?
The reason I ask is because I've had ongoing issues with my eldest son's school/old TA (it's a different school and ultimately he was permanently excluded November 2024). To try and keep it short, the TA who worked with my son is really good friends with my next door neighbour (who has a little girl who also so happened to be in his class at that school), and I'm pretty certain she told her about the case after my son left the school. Their little girl used to come out and play with my son, sometimes in our garden, which ceased in January right after I walked to my house after parking my car up and saw this old TA. She must have clocked that we lived next door to her friend and told her. There have been other obvious incidences that have lead me to believe they know too, such as them point blank not saying hi back to my partner when he bumps into them when putting rubbish out etc, which also only started happening from January.
This TA knew he was on a CIN plan and there was an ongoing investigation in order to safeguard him. At the time of the investigation nobody knew how bad things were (he was arrested after I found some messages in his phone of him almost buying CSAM). So obviously we prepared for the worst and I'm assuming the school basically made out to the TA that his father was a massive predator. In the end nothing further was found on his phone, which is why he got the caution (which automatically comes with 2 years on the SOR for a sex crime even if only issued with a caution).
As everything does, I'm also certain this has spread like wildfire from the parent who lives next door to the other parents of his class. I have since been to the school to pick up my best friend's child and every parent blanked me, whereas before they would speak with me.
Obviously if possible I'd like to avoid something similar happening at my middle son's new school.
Social services closed to us in September 2024 after my partner's criminal case closed and he was issued with a caution and 2 years on the SOR. The kids were on a CIN plan.
My middle child is due to start preschool in September and I'm wondering if they'll know he was open to SS previously and, more importantly, the reasoning for it?
The reason I ask is because I've had ongoing issues with my eldest son's school/old TA (it's a different school and ultimately he was permanently excluded November 2024). To try and keep it short, the TA who worked with my son is really good friends with my next door neighbour (who has a little girl who also so happened to be in his class at that school), and I'm pretty certain she told her about the case after my son left the school. Their little girl used to come out and play with my son, sometimes in our garden, which ceased in January right after I walked to my house after parking my car up and saw this old TA. She must have clocked that we lived next door to her friend and told her. There have been other obvious incidences that have lead me to believe they know too, such as them point blank not saying hi back to my partner when he bumps into them when putting rubbish out etc, which also only started happening from January.
This TA knew he was on a CIN plan and there was an ongoing investigation in order to safeguard him. At the time of the investigation nobody knew how bad things were (he was arrested after I found some messages in his phone of him almost buying CSAM). So obviously we prepared for the worst and I'm assuming the school basically made out to the TA that his father was a massive predator. In the end nothing further was found on his phone, which is why he got the caution (which automatically comes with 2 years on the SOR for a sex crime even if only issued with a caution).
As everything does, I'm also certain this has spread like wildfire from the parent who lives next door to the other parents of his class. I have since been to the school to pick up my best friend's child and every parent blanked me, whereas before they would speak with me.
Obviously if possible I'd like to avoid something similar happening at my middle son's new school.
I had to move house as my now ex (who committed offence) was the one who paid the mortgage etc
when our children moved schools they must have sent across documents relating to the involvement of children's services, reports etc as I requested documents and it was all there.. I obviously hadn't sent them. I told the school as my ex isn't allowed any unsupersvied, isn't listed as emergency contact etc but attends parents evenings and such. I said if they had any questions to contact children's services as I wasn't discussing it anymore (at this point I'd had no involvement for years) so I guess it depends if what happened to me is standard? Or just our LA policy x
when our children moved schools they must have sent across documents relating to the involvement of children's services, reports etc as I requested documents and it was all there.. I obviously hadn't sent them. I told the school as my ex isn't allowed any unsupersvied, isn't listed as emergency contact etc but attends parents evenings and such. I said if they had any questions to contact children's services as I wasn't discussing it anymore (at this point I'd had no involvement for years) so I guess it depends if what happened to me is standard? Or just our LA policy x
Spike - I'm really sorry to hear this.
The TA is totally out of order passing on confidential information. This would be potentially damaging and would be a clear breach of contract.
I would like to say that I would make an official complaint to the school , involve the governors etc BUT - this is likely to bring further attention to your situation, which you don't want.
I don't know what the answer is .....maybe a quiet word with the school head? - explaining your concerns but saying you don't want to make an official complaint. I think they would be horrified that a member of staff had behaved so unprofessionally.
If you do have cause to speak to the TA you could remind her that the welfare and happiness of your children should always be the prime consideration.
Love and strength to you as you continue to try to protect your children in this devastating situation x
The TA is totally out of order passing on confidential information. This would be potentially damaging and would be a clear breach of contract.
I would like to say that I would make an official complaint to the school , involve the governors etc BUT - this is likely to bring further attention to your situation, which you don't want.
I don't know what the answer is .....maybe a quiet word with the school head? - explaining your concerns but saying you don't want to make an official complaint. I think they would be horrified that a member of staff had behaved so unprofessionally.
If you do have cause to speak to the TA you could remind her that the welfare and happiness of your children should always be the prime consideration.
Love and strength to you as you continue to try to protect your children in this devastating situation x
Hi,
my daughter went to preschool last year and on the intake form there was a section about ss and if your child was under a plan or known to ss previously. I was open with them because we had already decided that we were going back to ss to work towards family reunification. They were really supportive xxx
my daughter went to preschool last year and on the intake form there was a section about ss and if your child was under a plan or known to ss previously. I was open with them because we had already decided that we were going back to ss to work towards family reunification. They were really supportive xxx
My daughters in nursery under a CIN plan. They've been really supportive. Only her current and last key worker know plus the lady who did the paperwork (she also looks after my daughter) and the manager of the nursery.
If the CIN plans stopped you probably could say no. It depends on the wording of the paperwork. My nurseries paperwork was very specific. It stated are services such as SS currently involved with your family.
If the CIN plans stopped you probably could say no. It depends on the wording of the paperwork. My nurseries paperwork was very specific. It stated are services such as SS currently involved with your family.