tired of waiting
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it's been 8 months since the knock... it is disgsuting and so frustrating to me that the police are able to drag these things out for so long. there is no thought of anyone involved.
haven't seen now ex since it happened. messaging every now and then for updates is the extent of our communication.
he is now RUI as of June instead of bailed.
im more concerned about my children's futures than anything. this is killing me, i just want answers.
haven't seen now ex since it happened. messaging every now and then for updates is the extent of our communication.
he is now RUI as of June instead of bailed.
im more concerned about my children's futures than anything. this is killing me, i just want answers.
My person is my son for something that happened when he was 15. We had knock when he just turned 16 and year later still waiting with no end in sight. Is life ruined before it began and all we know is IP address and username linked in some way.
The whole system is wrong.
I feel you want to shout from the rooftops this is all wrong and like you say no concern for those impacted. But the stigma means you can't.
The whole system is wrong.
I feel you want to shout from the rooftops this is all wrong and like you say no concern for those impacted. But the stigma means you can't.
i'm so sorry, it is bittersweet when i read others are waiting too - i don't feel so alone but just wish we could all get answers
personally, the wait is one of the worst things about this. i don't understand how they can justify it. they walk in with the worst news of your life, then leave and nothing more is done for months, even years for some people. the system is so broken
i am also not allowed to know anything (probably be different for you if he's under 18, i think?) and thats tormenting as well - not classed as a victim (though i sure feel like one in a way), and not the accused one so it's literally the very text book definition of limbo.
personally, the wait is one of the worst things about this. i don't understand how they can justify it. they walk in with the worst news of your life, then leave and nothing more is done for months, even years for some people. the system is so broken
i am also not allowed to know anything (probably be different for you if he's under 18, i think?) and thats tormenting as well - not classed as a victim (though i sure feel like one in a way), and not the accused one so it's literally the very text book definition of limbo.
I can completely understand how you are feeling.
We are 22 months in with nothing. Also RUI and worried about my child's future and the impact of it all. Had to start play therapy recently as it seems to be coming to a head for her.
We are 22 months in with nothing. Also RUI and worried about my child's future and the impact of it all. Had to start play therapy recently as it seems to be coming to a head for her.
Confusedtwin it is definitely a broken system. For us the not knowing exactly what our son is accused of leaves me second guessing everything. We've asked him and he breaks down and says he doesn't know. We believe snapchat because he's reported violations on there.
Like you I wish we could all get answers quicker. My husband wants to complain. Normally I'm type of person to go as high as possible to get answers and change. But the stigma of this doesn't allow it.
Like you I wish we could all get answers quicker. My husband wants to complain. Normally I'm type of person to go as high as possible to get answers and change. But the stigma of this doesn't allow it.